Love is destroying me

Discussion in 'True Love' started by prankster1590, Nov 4, 2006.

  1. prankster1590

    prankster1590 Member

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    Love=Hate and hate=love

    This girl. She's driving me crazy. I love her and we are very very veryyy close. But we don't have what I wan't and I hate it and I hate everybody who makes her laugh because I wanna make her laugh and be her prince, her saviour her world. I can't take it. I hate it. I hate her fot letting me feel like this and I hate myself for letting it happen. I'm so lost and it is so complicated. To many people involved and to many things has happened.
    God please why has this have to happen to me.
     
  2. Gypsy_girl

    Gypsy_girl Member

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    Hmm it's not fair is it? What is happening though, is that she deesn't want anything serious and you do? If so, how long have you been together? If it hasn't been long, give it a bit more time, and hopefully things will grow between you. If you've been together for a while, as hard as it s is, you'll have to move on. There's no point staying in an unsatisfactory relationship, you'll only wind up miserable in the longrun.
     
  3. soaringeagle

    soaringeagle Senior Member

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    whoa... ya wann be her prince..her savior..her everything..and ya hate everyone who makes her laugh?

    translation; you want her to be your prissioner and have no freinds but you

    maybe ya werent as clear on that as you hoped and maybe im reading more intoit then is there, but to me it sounds like your pretty unstable and not very reasonable with expectations

    whats the relationship really like..what would you like it to be.. and whats she doing thats preventing that
    also... are your expectations fair to her
    what are you hoping she will change or give up
     
  4. Airfern1313

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    I get what your feeling about hating or being jealous when a girl you are that close to has a good time with someone else. You want to make her laugh all the time, make her happy, etc... You could talk to her about this, or let it pass, though if you standby and do nothing it might hurt more.
     
  5. Marija

    Marija Senior Member

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    you are too opsesive!
    so what if she smiles on other peoples jockes?
     
  6. THE MIGHTY TOENAIL

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    love doesn't destroy. we become destroyed when we think we DON'T have love.
    remember, love doesn't have to equate to a relationship.
    and a relationship shouldn't equate to NEED.
    love isn't need.
    it sounds like you NEED to feel loved prankster.
    you already love her - there's no problem with that. but you feel you NEED her - now ask yourself WHY?

    do you feel loved prankster?
    what does she have that you don't?
    why aren't you fine on your own, just as you are now?

    love doesn't control or need. it just IS. it doesn't sound like your issue is with you loving her - it sounds like it's with YOU NEEDING. that's YOUR issue - not hers.
     
  7. Anastazija

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    Ok, easy dude. Ot will be just fine if you let her be happy. She can't be happy with you only, she needs other people in her life too. And if you want her to be yours - be nice with her, love her, make her feel special.
     
  8. J0hn

    J0hn Phantom

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    What is important is that you love each other. A relationship should begin a friendship and then let it grow. Each massive tree began as a tiny seed, no bigger than a one penny piece. Now look at it. It touches the sky and is the most beautiful tree in the forest. What you need, is to nurture your relationship. Keep things simple to begin with and try and calm down. Love makes us all go crazy, but with sense and sensibility on our side, we can learn to take it easy. Why hate is a strong word and one who hates their girlfriend (Not saying you do) should think again at whether this is right relationship. If you make the wrong choice now, it will go wrong somewhere down the road. We don't know when but I predict it usually comes after the wedding and you start having children.
    Carefully does it now and you will reap the rewards, both of you reap the rewards later on.
     
  9. J0hn

    J0hn Phantom

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    Don't be angry at those who make her laugh. They are making her happy. They have her well being at heart and they know or should respect the fact that you are together. Of course if your girlfriend is loyal and trustworthy, I believe she will remain faithful if ever any man tries to make an advance. I believe she has built a castle and you are the only invited person. It is good that you want to make her laugh, but you should also make her feel special and the luckiest girl in the world. Without going overboard with champagne, gems and diamonds, we can make a girl feel happy, appreciated with the most simplest of gestures. Just saying, I love you, can make her feel special and you say that everyday and she will stay by you.


    I hope cupids arrow finds you both somewhere romantic.
     
  10. revolution_time

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    i understand what your going through. i've felt the same way over my girlfriend. it never got to the point where i hated/loved her at the same time, but i understand wanting to be the only guy that can make her happy. you'll get over it. you just need to realize that having another guy engage her and make her laugh is only fair. i'm sure you don't ignore other girls. you like other girls, but you love her. it's the same thing with her. she may like other guys, but she loves you.
     
  11. BeaverKoffi

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    Guy same typycal, loser situation... you love rher, you are nice to her, best friends, deep serious converstaion... no kiss no fuck... y ? becuase yo ushould act like MAN, not like pussy- girlfriend which there, whenever she needs you. and maybe after that she would reconsider and look and thinka botu u in sexual context.. not like already sued, my "girlfriend" to which i can tell my deepest secret.....be a MAN, ACT like MAN. but its probably another galaxy , these words. peopel are different adn they build their life for them.
     
  12. Nottingham

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    Love is difficult. It takes alot to make it work. And it can be very scary sometimes.
     

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