i think i might just be a little scared. i don't know, he can get his fingers in, he can get my dildo in but when try's to get the head of his cock in me, it just won't go. He has a really big head, so maybe his head is just too big?
Too big? Doubtfully. You probably are just a bit too nervous and tense. Have lots of foreplay and get ahold of some lube and have fun and relax!
did you marry him without fucking him first? :/ slowly work up to it over time, using one finger, then two and so on. make sure you're really wet and horny and relaxed. maybe if you're not wet enough, use some lube. if you take your time, there should be no probs.
is he maybe rushing right to penetration without enough foreplay? is he getting hard enough? and lastly, have you tried to help guide him in?
no we play lot's before hand, we like toys and porns and stuff, he is plenty hard, and i try to guide him in, but it just won't work! it sucks cause i really want him in there!
lots of lube!!! lots and something to help you relax if your like bracing yourself..ya will clench so tight ya cant get a pencil in..(dont try that at home guys..lol) just take a really deep breath..release it and relax entitrely b4 he enters.. maybe also try not only lube on him, but in you aswell
Do all the foreplay, get him nice and hard and your ass loosened up as much as possible with fingers, toys etc. When it time to penetrate, lube up and get him to push his cock head firmly against your ass hole, keeping it there with a constant steady pressure. Then (sorry for the mental image, but there's no other way to put this) imagine like your taking a dump, push outwards with your ass and it will open up and let him in.
Yah know, i've attempted (i was going to say tried but attempted seems better) anal before and also had this problem! I think I'm scared that it's going to hurt, shorterm and longterm! But, I got too tense. I would love to try it once but when it comes time to do the deed, it just won't work! It's like taking a test... yah know! Yah know the material before hand, but once it's infront of you, you freeze up! Anal, in mainstream society has a bad rep. and I think thats why us anal virgins are so afraid of it! Honestly, I want a doctors opinion! I've stuck by the idea that it's an exit hole only but... who knows! I'm not shy about it or anything, it just... I don't know, I want a doctors opinion and I think we should loosen up (we being us girls who are too nervous!) Tell yah what, I'll try it if you will!
The only think i can say you is that i read a lot about anal sex. I´m not a doctor. But i can say that you`ve to keep in mind that this pipe in your body isn`t only for what you are beleiving. Or a lot of people thinks. Don`t be scare at all because it is incredible which size of objects you`ll be able to permit go in. And because the lot of nerves are in there and because it is very tight permiting a lot graze, the sensation you can feel it`ll be amazing. Just go on the internet and read literature from specialists about this issue. You are going to find a lot as me. Good luck !
Thanks for all the info! me and hubby keep trying, i figure practice makes perfect huh? and besides! it is fun trying and makes him all horny so i guess one of these times it'll get in there!