Well, I'm basically the biggest introvert I know. I hate it. I'd do anything to be an extrovert... Is there some sort of way to change a person into an extrovert over time? ANYTHING I'd rather enjoy what I do rather than worry about all the negatives... I want to have fun in life.
I tend to be both, depending on the situation. When I'm with someone one on one, then I'm an extrovert, but in a group setting, I'm much quieter. Maybe you just need to work on being an extrovert w/ one on one conversations. Why do you feel that you need to change? What do you want to change exactly? Do you want to be the center of attention but shy away? How are you introverted? Maybe with this information I can help a little. One other thing, be confident! Peace and love
^ hahaha i know that was a joke but don't do either of those! relying on drink will hinder your social development even more...and well the computer provides instant messenger, which provides a convenient way to socialise more regularly...or at least until you can see people in person. i find myself drifting towards being an introvert sometimes, usually when i'm in a social situation that i find boring, and then i start thinking about myself, and forget what's happening around me. i think you can 'become' an extrovert, you've just got to consciously move your thoughts onto those around you, and what you can say to them. concentrate on external things, put others before you, and whatever complex you have...or whatever problems you have, should eventually fade away.
I'm pretty introverted. Recently I've been fighting that by just basically saying "screw what everyone else thinks" and modelling myself on Hunter S. Thompson. Probably not the best advice ever, though. But it sure is fun.
Here's a very helpful distinction that isn't often made, but it's important. Introverted and shy aren't the same thing. It sounds to me like you're not so much introverted as just plain shy. An introvert wants to be alone, at least more often than not. They get recharged by time alone, and tend to find interacting with others draining to a degree. Extroverts get energized by others and tend to find too much time alone draining, theyre more outward focused. You can be the most extroverted person in the world, and still be shy: yearning for contact with others, but too afraid or insecure to go and get it. The problem with being introverted is that its easier to focus so much on how we feel and we end up thinking negative or pessimistc thoughts, seeing as how we're naturally turned inward. Overcoming shyness first means being painfully honest with yourself. You have to look openly at how you feel and what you think when you feel shy, and be honest about what that means. That means getting into your values, your beliefs about yourself and other people, your insecurities and fears. You need to be aware of whats going on inside yourself, and then take steps to change those beliefs, feelings, thought patterns, assumptions, self-images etc so that you can be free to be open and just be yourself with others. This online book is FANTASTIC if you want to take the lead to solve your own problems in this or any area: [size=-1]www.psychologicalselfhelp.org/ [/size]Finding specific resources on the net about shyness would be helpful as well. Just remember- introverted does not mean shy. I know that from very personal experience.
twizz, you say you want to be an extrovert person. I think you need to know for yourself the things that you would like to do exactly. Like if you want to be more confident while speaking in front of other people, or anything like that. When you have specified those, you can concentrate on practicing how to do it or how to achieve it. Just keep yourself motivated so that you can have focus and determination to achieve being an extrovert that you want to be. If you have the motivation to achieve it, it would be easier for you to do it. _________________________________ self confidence Free Report reveals how to develop self-confidence. Get it here: http://www-confidence.com/ motivation Free Report reveals how to develop lasting motivation. Get it here: http://www.getmotivatedstaymotivated.com/special.htm
