consequences of masturbating too much

I can't reach orgasm when I'm with a woman. This is odd because I can easily reach orgasm when I masturbate.

I have a feeling this is because I masturbated too much. I usually do it once a day. So maybe this is affecting my ability to reach orgasm thru real intercourse.

Anyone else have the same problem/experience?

Can this problem be solved eventually or am I stuck like this forever? Any techniques?

Thanks a lot.

 

It's impossible to masturbate too much. Whatever your problem is, it's purely mental. You could do it ten times a day and it wouldn't affect your ability to have regular sex, besides maybe making you less horny...

 

yeah, it's all in your mind. maybe you're just "nervous" or something?

 

performance anxiety !!!!

 

It depends on how fixated you are with what you mastubate to..

Say, if you masturbate to a picture of "your ideal woman", then perhaps you are spoiling your reality...

If you are masturbating using your imagination, perhaps your imagination is also so far removed from reality that reality doesn't turn you on anymore...


Just a thought...

 

Your chances of not being able to perform due to masturbating once a day are 1 in 1,000,001.1! Did you know that many sexual counsellors/therapists advise masturbation as a build up for non-performers such as you describe your situation to be. Keizholla or whatever, how old are you? how many women? under what circumstances? Religious upbringing? Circumcised? personal history? Gender preference? any history of erectile dysfunction? Understand please, that there are many reasons for failed performance, most all of which are easily overcome with advice and patience. But you have to unveil yourself to someone. And quit trying to blame my favorite experiential pastime! Stop it!

 

a good way to tell if its a physical sensation or a mental reflex that prevents you from cumming with your girl would be to masturbate with her, if you can't make yourslef cum infront of her than you know its preformance anxiety. If you can cum infron tof her, great, keep working at it, get yourself near the edge then let her finish you off..take it in steps, you'll get over it

BTW
nalencer, you do realize your sig is photoshoped right?

 

Keizokaihara - You are becoming addicted to masturbation. Cut back to twice a week and you will do better with the real thing. Also some peformance anxiety may be bothering you. Do more foreplay before you enter her.

 

Yep, too much masturbation will render you without orgasm when actually having sex with a woman.

 

Have the same problem from time to time after long periods away from my girlfriend where i find myself masturbating anywhere between 1-8 times a day, i can usually still get an orgasm during sex but there is times when i don't/cant and ahve to finish myself off manually afterwards.

 

I have the same issue. I masturbate at least once a day and can sometimes go up to 4 times. So not sure if I had anorgasmia I've been pooling info and it seems that yeah...I think it's lack of build up and it makes it that much harder to be finished off by foreign touch.

I tried it. Held out for 3 days (felt like killing myself) and for the first time I orgasmed before the girl did.

 

The only ways masturbation can affect orgasm is either due to conditioning yourself to a different form of stimulation, or conditioning yourself to hold off longer. Masturbation, regardless of frequency, will not affect your ability to orgasm in itself unless it has become a fetish (something you NEED to get off).

I would think that the ability to fuck longer would be a bonus!

 

I have experienced something similiar to what lankymidget is suggesting your problem may be. I didn't masturbate to imaginary "ideal women", but I always masturbate to "adventurous fantasies" of kinky bisexual women, or to fantasies of a guy watching another guy with his wife. Hence, I'm seldom "in" my fantasies. I'm just the narrarator. This has caused me to have trouble cumming on the second or third round during the same session (i'm also 26 now, that makes me wonder). Also, I don't get excited or aroused as easily. My sexuality had become somewhat numbed by unfulfilled kinkier desires. In my last long-term relationship, discovering that my gf enjoyed being rimmed was like an aphrodisiac.

I also have experienced performance anxiety. This usually only occured for me during our first sexual experiences together. After that, my desire for romance and intimacy often overwashed any performance anxiety that I may have had. Dangermoose's suggestion about mastubating in front of her does sound wise, but usually performance anxiety stems from a fear of not pleasing the woman or fearing being inadequate for her. You probably don't fear that you are "not enough" for your hand.

As alana said, usually that the only danger with frequent masturbation is becomming acustomed to orgasming by certain types of stimulation. This seems more common among women. As for men, usually masturbation brings about premature ejaculation broblems due to "learing" to cum too soon. Also, developing the ability to masturbate dry handed, and cum, makes the vagina feel way !!!!!!!!!! too good!!!!!!! So, for many men, frequently masturbating dry handed brings about premature ejaculation.

It seems that you don't have a premature ejaculation problem. I bet that you are just way more into your fantasies than your reality. Look into that.

 

My boyfriend tends to have a problem with this. It seems that when he masturbates he has little to no interest in me...actually when he looks at porn in general he loses interest in sex. He watches double penetration movies, and other things I can't or won't do, and I feel that I'm just not good enough or something...tends to take a toll on a girls self esteem when not only is the porn better than you but then the sex sucks on top of that!

 

can too much masturbation cause your testicles to become uncomfortable? and this is once a day.