I dated a girl for about 6 months who I met in a play. We dated for about 2 months before becoming "official". We got along splendidly. She was becoming a really good friend of mine, and I fell in love with her. There came up issues where I didn't see her enough, I became more attached when I was in love with her. She was born with club foot and has other problems with her leg. Anyhow..that would take her away on weekends sometimes because she had to go to the doctor or do something with her parents for that. I came forward with these feelings to her one day..that didn't end well. She said it wasn't fair to me and she couldn't be there for me like I was for her. This all ended on the 26th of September. My best friend encouraged me to date her and said he saw me falling for her. He pushed everything along, and I fell for her pretty hard. After we broke up, my best friend still remained friends with her. I just had a conversation with my friend and he informed me had fallen for her. He said he didn't want to hurt me and asked what I thought. He wanted me to be cool with it. I told him I wasn't going to tell him what to do. After some thinking I told him I can't be "cool" with it, and I can't encourage him. I told him I don't want to hear about her, or them. I don't want to hear anything in his life that has to do with her. I told him it would probably fuck me up a lot. But I also said would it be worth losing something if he got something from this? Such as a the love of his life. I told him to go for it. I said it won't be easy, and I know he wants me to be cool with it but I can't. I also said I can't be happy for him. I just had to say all this becase everyone I know is asleep and it's 5:16 am..so nobody to talk to right now.
I know it's not easy, and I admire you for being honest. There's really nothing you can do if they do get together, but it is good you have expressed your feelings to your friend regardless. Here's hoping things improve for you.
most of the time its like that .. feelings are really strong , you need to let it out once and for all
personally similar case, except we were younger, and he never told me, and it ended up ending expolding in everyone's face, poor girl, we were disgraceful at least your freind seems open, and really wants to try, but then again even if she leaves doesn't mean their wasn't feelings their. I would say let him have her, it's over and just avoid them till you move on (don't aviod him if you don't have to, just aviod that aspect of his life)
