so i hope this is the right forum. anywho..... guy meets girl blah blah blah. I realy like her blah blah blah. but the problemo is that all the gf's ive had its been an girl asks guy out thing. so ive never had this experience with asking before. what is a good way of asking without sounding cheesey at a young age? -thanx -rydns
yea that sounds good. not dorky, and not too cheesey. besides its easy to face hypothetical rejection with that lol
It really depends on your age...and the age of the girl...some things work for the older crowd that would just sound strange to a young female..
movie = bad idea. if it's someone you don't know very well, why would you want to spend two hours watching a movie when you could be conversing with them and getting to know each other. If you can, get coffee. if not, try ice cream. You're bound to find some forum where you aren't *just* sitting and staring at each other but still have ample opportunity to talk to you each other. that reminds of this story. the other day a girl came over to my house that I had only hung out with once so we didn't know each other very well. I had just opened a bottle of wine and was listening to Count Basie. She said, after being at my house for a total of ten minutes, "let's watch a movie." to which I replied, "or, we could listen to jazz, drink wine, and read poetry." she pauses for a minute and says, "are you gay?" hahaha. What, a heterosexual man can't drink wine whilst listening to jazz and reading poetry anymore?
exactly.... movies are fun for the second or third date, but the first? I hate talking through a movie, and for a lot of teenagers/young adults, seeing a movie is code for making out. I'd rather have a real conversation with someone on the first date, thanks.
mm its true that the movie idea kinda kills conversation, but afterwards u can talk about the movie, which gives u a conversation topic.. its a start, not perfect, but the "what are u doing this weekend" line is still good.. ive never had a guy tell me he wants to "listen to jazz, drink wine and read poetry" but i would wonder if they're gay too lol.
If it's a first date take her to Starbucks, most girls like coffee and will feel safe in that setting than say a bar or a movie. If it goes well make the move and get a second date. Say a movie or drinks. If this goes over well, ask her to dinner, she'll know your interested by this point. A good way to ask her out is after spending some time with her and you're parting company would be " I've enjoyed seeing you, I'd love to see more of you, If you're not all booked up on Friday would you like to go to Starbucks for coffee with me?" " If your schedule is over booked I'll understand." Great line, works almost every time! Good Luck! Bustramp
Young girls have pretty low standards for dates. It probably really depends more on how popular you are than on how smooth you are.
a good way to start might be to go somewhere with her, but also with some mutual friends. kinda takes the pressure off you to keep the conversation going, etc....
Steps 1.Procure phone #/email. Don't say can I get your number/email just say something like write down your email then while she's writing her email tell her to put down her phone number. Or must say whats your phone#? Do it in a kind of cocky but funny kinda way. 2. Set up date. DO NOT say would you like to go out or can I take you out. Figure out an activity, coffeshop,walking in the park frisbee,seeing a band etc. Call or email her tell her what you are up to then tell her that she's werlcome to join you. Again be kinda cocky and funny. I suggest a coffeshop date. Preferably NOT Starcrooks oops I mean Starbucks. Coffeshops usually have a cool vibe plus the caffiene helps the coversation. Keep the conversation light and a bit funny. The coffee date is perfect for gauging her interest and seeing what kind of person she is before shelling out lots of $$$$ for a fancy dinner. Have a plan for afterward in case the coffee date goes well. Don't go all out and take her to a really fancy place right off. Think simplicity and good relaxing atmosphere. 3.Project good body language. Lean back use self confidant body language. Maintain eye contact at all times. Let her be the one that breaks eye contact. 4> Give her space don't hang all over her. Think 2 steps forward one back. ie Hold her hand for a bit then take your hand away. 5. The Kiss... Switch your gaxe from her eyes to her mouth a few times. Do the hair test. Casually reach out and stroke a strand of hair. If she react positively then go for it!!!!! Best of luck to ya!
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