I'm selling out

technically he is a 1.5 but hippies always round up and so that is how he came to be a level 2

 

ok, so your HUSBAND, someone who should LOVE you, doesnt accept you for who you are??? Im sorry if I cant contain myself, just slap me if Im a dick, but WHAT KIND OF LOVE IS THAT???????

That is not the way the person youre spending your life with should treat you!

I tend to use the word hippy to kind of sum up someones attributes when Im too lazy to be slow and describe them. But I mean, you say you "have to" give up being a "hippy?" Um. No one is making you. YOU are making you.

If no one that you are in contant with can accept you for you being yourself,then maybe you need to surround yourself by different people! Or, dont take their comments so seriously and try to make more of a joke of it.

But if you feel that you are deep down hippy, then dont change yourself for someone else. True love is unconditional acceptance. How could you think of trying to forget about a big chunk of who you are, and pretending to be someone you arent, for "acceptance?" What kind of acceptance is it, if the people are accepting you for someone you arent?? I know Id feel much worse being accepted for being someone Im not, than being shunned for being who I am.

Im sorry if I sound rude, I dont mean to. Im just trying to help. But really! Youll regret it for the rest of your life.

My mother was the same way. She was hippy, and had a job she loved, but wasnt the most magnificent job- she was an Art Therapist at mental institutions. And then when she got with my father (theyre now divorced), he made fun of her job and her whole artistic side. And she dropped it all- her art, her job, herself. For him.

And then he fucked her over and left her, scrambling for a job to help sustain me and my brothers. And she thoguht "Why did I do all that for him???"

My point- if he wont accept you for being a hippy, then that isnt right. Seriously think about your relationship. Dont end up like my mom- giving up your beliefs and lifestyle, and then finding out later you did it for someone who wasnt worth it.

Good luck
Cheers and Love,
Dylan

p.s. And now my mom is more in touch with her old self, and shes all good now.

 

Darling, your husband can't except you? the one instutotion that is based ons omething pure, cant love you for who you are? Your unhappy. the worst thing ever. I think you need to stan dup and dance. You need some time to listen to yourself and no one else.

 

This seems to be the hangup here, when is someone married? Our thread starter, said if she wasn't married she would leave her present situation. Well, whats the problem? What did she do, sign a paper, and now is bound to this person (who is preventing her from being who she wants to be), and so she must stay and change, give up her soul because she is legally committed. I think hippies,at higher levels than Jimmy Buffet, don't even get married in the conventional way, no courts, no signing papers, no white dress, or church affirmations. I have been with the same partner for nearly 30 years, and have 5 children, and are joined in the spirit and heart, and have no legal documentation binding me. You don't either, no one can blame anyone else for their unsatisfactory predicament. I actually think you aren't really married at all until you have children, (two become one flesh), so now is the time to change and figure out what will make you happiest, because you won't be able to make anyone else happy, unless you are being your authentic self.

 

very good point abe
and everyone
i mean you can change your level sure, but only if what u got is worth changing you for
and someone not accepting you for the basics that make u worhwhile doesnt desserve to have any parys of you
what would u be if you wernt you?
a body to sleep with and keep the house clean?
yaare way more then that
if forcing yourself to be less then what you are is malkin u miserable..then alow yourself to be more then you were..fly free lil hippy be the free spirit you long to be

changing you is only evrr good when itds for the greatter good..but the greatter goods gotta also include your feelings not just others
if its hurting you deeply how good could it be

 

love doesn't begin with someone accepting you for who you are

it begins with you accepting you for who you are

and accepting him for who he is, is part of the process of our awakening to love

even if somehow in the equation, he doesn't accept you for who you are

can you really be sure he doesn't accept you?

 

Molly and SoaringEagle are right on target (SE's last remark, anyway). Only you know the person inside your skin, and it isn't necessary to always "let your freak flag fly". I'm pretty much a stealth hippy these days, I don't much look the part; but, be careful ... in my stealthy disguise, I might just slip a little peace and love into your mind without you realizing it.

It's possible that is the best kind of hippy to be in these times, if you're really concerned about changing the world for the better.

 

LMAO...on that note:
level 1 = John Mayer
level 2 = Jimmy Buffet
level 3 = Dave Mathews Band
level 4 = Pink Floyd
level 5 = Allman Brothers
level 6 = Led Zeppelin
level 7 = String Cheese Incident
level 8 = Widespread Panic
level 9 = Phish
level 10 = Grateful Dead

Now take the number that corresponds with the highest band that you like. Subtract 2 and that is the level of hippy that you are. You may add another 1 for every 18 years that you have been a hippy. Any questions?

 

My sentiments exactly. On the DL withe the LP.

 

haha salmon, I love the level of hippie chart. That's great. Like you were saying, helter, it's just that. I don't have the lifestyle and I feel like I can't. I guess, in my heart, that is what is missing in my life. I do things that I am not ok with. But, I'm not giving up just yet.

 

sorry in my opinion the dead are not level 10 unless u mean level 10 drug fiends

eathy i'm gonna pm u my number..ok?
jusy i hve some freinds whove gone through the same sorta stuff as you, nd perhaps maybe knowing salittle of what they went through might help u
and maybe can put u in touch if u want

 

I certainly don't want to debate one of my favorite "posters", but the Dead are the best jam band that ever played. Certainly better than any other on the list. Now I will admit that I could have picked all classic rock bands, or at least bands that were playing in the late 60's (dead etc), but I chose jam bands since they are still around. So all of that being said there was no other choice for level 10, in my opinion.

 

OK, OK,i understand wht you are saying.....but I happen to live in south carolina, too, and you have no idea of the "hippie" lifestyle here. it is alive and well...just not out there. we like it like this. S. carolina gets such a bad rap, and i want everyone to know it aint like you think

 

allman brothers circa 2005 were lowered to a level 4 when greg kicked dickie betts out of the band... it always depends upon what year's recordings you are listening to... what year's listings are you going by?

 

no..allmam bros. werent the same since dwayne died

 

Yeah, I will agree that south carolina isn't what it it's rep is. Not much to the hip scene in Columbia, but it's certainly not a bunch of uneducated redneck folk either.

 

as a matter of fact, a lot of people that live in south carolina are from up north....a lot!! especially ohio, penn., and jersey

hip scene in columbia used to be pretty cool, but everyone's moved away

 

Hey, understandably so. I mean, I know of a few hippies around here, but for whatever reason...they don't like me. Interesting stuff. :/

 

okay so maybe you wont be having the dreads and all anymore. Just focus on the important things
love nature, listen to your body, be kind to others, teach your baby to love and respect, be thankful, beautiful, generous, loving, open, intune and above all respect yourself

I think you'll find a happy medium

 

Sorry if I bad rapped S Carolina. It's just that I grew up in the South and I know that there's some very serious redneck energy and religious maniacs in the power structure there that are going to be hard on the hippie head and I think that's part of what's happnin to our friend here. Up North the attitude is more blankety blank crazy hippies but no one gets in your face or even really cares that much and a lot of people just accept you although they may not invite you over for tea and crumpets.