My mom said shes going to tamk me take out my dreadlocks. They are real big, but they are dreadlocks. For a long time shes been saying she'll make me, but she hasn't. Well, now it's serious and she says on friday shes going to take me to get my hair cut. I can't even believe this and I'm trying to just ignore her and whatever she says. I know technically I "have" to comply with her because I'm only 14 but I can't even believe this. I'm bigger than her and it's not like she can drag me to a hair cutters or anything, it's not like she can make me. Here are some of her comments to me: "You don't live in Jamaica, you're not a Rastaman, you're not getting those gross dreadlocks." "Everyone at school thinks you're a freak and they think I don't make you take care of yourself." "You're too good looking to have that hair." THIS SUCKS!!!!!!! HELP!!!!!!!!! What do I do?
well here is what i would do if i were in your shoes, but then again not many people are as cool as me. I would say if your going to treat me like im a little kid, then im going to start acting like one. I would pee in the corner of the house, and leave crap everywehre (assuming you dont already do that). This plan only works assuming your mother is not one of the smarter parents, and dosent give you a severe whooping. But being serious I would just wash your dreads regularly, keep them clean, and roll them with aloe alot so they look respectable. Show her that you can look clean and have dreads, and keep your grades up and all that jive. And um maybe lay off the weed as well.
I would just wash your dreads regularly - check! keep them clean - check! show her you can look clean and have dreads - check! and keep your grades up - check! And um maybe lay off the weed as well - Huh??
educate her..byt even if she knows everything bout dreads still closed minds take time to open took my parents 15 years to get used to mine and what did the trick was seeing 80 year old church goin ol ladies raving bout how beautiful my dreadswere when she realizes not everyone will look down on ya she'll lighten up
i had a similar thing with my mom. I dunno if itll work, but jsut be persistant. Show her its not jsut another phase you're going through, explain to her why they are important to you, tell her there are more important thigns you could argue about than how you look. She's only got you for 4 more years right? Would she rather it be a peaceful, fun four years? Ultiamtely I think the parent decides taht. At your age or maybe a little older people start developing prinicples and beleifs, what your parents want for you might not always be waht you want regardless of wahts "best for you". Ask her how in the log run having dreads is really going to interfere with your success. Show her liek soaringeagle said that you dont have to walk around in a suit with short combed, parted hair to be accepted (or atleast in most parts). Its funny how the world preaches to young people to be individuals but when they try to be individual in a way that society doesnt like, they get put down for it. Ironic how so few people actualy do try but so many seem to agree with the message. Show her it doesnt change who you are or waht you beleive in. Show her that wahts on top of your head makes you no less of a person than anybody else.
is your mother a christian? tell her about the dreadlocks in the bible, judaic, hindu, and buddhists text dating back way before "hair care" became a multi million dollar industry. tell her that dreadlocks were held sacred by many religions as a way to channel energy from th heavens and trap them in the locked hair. I remember reading there are even significant people in the bible, religious icons, who were described as having ropes of hair. etc etc. educate her .... do YOUR research. it sounds like she cares more about what other people think than your happiness with yourself but this isnt unusal with parents. her saying kids think your a freak is just her projecting her fear that other people think your a freak and this will reflect badly on her. ULTIMATLY if you keep your cool and maturity you will be the more mature one here. even more mature if you dont rub this in her face. if you must cut. it is not the end of the world. each set of dreads is different and unique...when you are of age. start and new one and lay a path for a new journey. this might be even more cleansing for you than haveing your dreadlocks for another year or so then cutting. i believe it will all work out in the end for you ! goodluck
That's so awful, I don't even know what I would do if I was in your shoes because I know my mum would never do anything like that. Good luck though
tell her how many evil people are clean cut and look decent (i.e. hitler) and then tell her about all the good people that had dreads (bob marley mabe?) and if she doesnt buy that and she does make you cut your hair, you should become like super shady and wear sweatshirts with the hood pulled up all the time, and staying in dark corners and act depressed and shit. then when she tries to talk to you about how you changes, jump out and bite her.
i had cut mine off once die to parental and a hyper material ex's influence and regretted it so much but its not the end of the world if u gotta grow em again they'll growagain... but maybe if she knew how traimatic it could be to lose your dreads shed understand i know perhaps its not the same as losing a breast to disease, but as a woman shed be more able to relate to that sorta traumatic loss then she can to dreadssince she has no concept of the importance or how the loss would make you feel
So, according to your mom, only ugly people have dreads?!?:bs: (That smiley is cute!) Your situation sucks, man...
O here is what else you can do Blast some like really crappy death metal, showing how angry you are I highly recommend cannible corpse, or obituary. Just put earplugs in and have it playing constantly. Or go the emo route, and listen to that crap constantly and always complain i wish you the best
