So I feel kind of awkward asking this and I hope no one is offended by my post, but I needed to ask for some advice/ tips. I wasn't sure where to post this either but I wanted some ladies input so I thougt I'd try it here. My guy likes the woman-on-top position, as most guys do, but I am really not good at it at all, and he told me the same thing last night. He always tell me that it's okay when I tell him that I suck at it, but I know he's not really getting enjoyment out of it because I'm not good at it. :-( The thing is that he is the first guy that I have been with and I don't really "know" how to be on top or what to do or how to move etc. (sounds stupid, I know, but I am inexperienced). He's suggeted I try moving my hips a certain way, but my lower back tends to be a bit stiff and I can't really move the way he would like me to. I really do want to please him and give him pleasure, but I know that I suck at being on top. Are there any tips or advice that you ladies could give me to help me improve? What is it that you do that makes your guy love it when you are on top?
You may want to try the Love and Sex forum, I seem to recall a thread in tehre not too terribly long ago on this as well. I find it easiest if i have a place to put my hands, support my upper body weight through them, plus then it's almost like I'm pivotting rather than just bouncing up and down. Hard to explain properly... um, try beign on your knees and bouncing as though you were on top. Awkward, hard to go fast or deep or anything. The way I do it is almost like on all fours, but my butt's against my feet rather than literally on my hands and knees. It helps if he thrusts as well, so it's not just you doing all the work.
some threads I found with a quick search: http://www.hipforums.com/forums/showthread.php?threadid=4602 http://www.hipforums.com/forums/showthread.php?threadid=35066 http://www.hipforums.com/forums/showthread.php?threadid=133149
practice, practice, practice... You'll figure it out, and then have to figure it out all over again when/if you ever have a different partner. Just have fun. If it's not fun for you, do something else.
While love & sex might be a more appropriate forum, I no longer like to post there, so I hope no one minds my answering this here. When I was younger, I thought of "woman on top" as me being on my knees bouncing on top of him... Which never lasted very long because it would start to hurt my knees before too long. Another way to position yourself is with your feet on the mattress/floor/whatever, so that you're squatting on him basically, but also helping to support your weight and balance yourself with your hands either on his chest or his legs, depending on the angle that you prefer. That also allows for a greater range of motions. I do whatever it is that makes me love it, and he's pretty happy with that... If I weren't enjoying sex as much as I possibly could, he wouldn't really enjoy it as much as he could.
even a refusal to post there means you can still search though *shrugs* there were many threads that were easy to find with a simple search is all. www.clitical.com might be another good source of info, to the OP
my performance varies depending upon what is required that particular time to get me off. sometimes it's easier than others. whatever i do, it all seems to work for him, too. so it's all good, really.
It's easier to just lie there. LOL! (I am just being silly....) I don't usually like being on top. Too much on my legs, too. I found a good BJ when he wants this is just the cure.
oh yeah, and i get bad rugburns if i don't place something smooth beneath my knees and feet, so you may wanna thing of that, too.
Yeah, but you do it in the living room all the time. LOL! We fuck on 400 count Egyption cotton sheets. hee hee hee hee *sigh* too many kids up at all hours of the day and night to have random living room sex in our house......
actually, when we get the kids to sleep in the big family bed, we migrate towards more private quarters...i haven't had sex in a bed is so long, it's beginning to sound kinky.
There is so much room in the bed, I like it there most. Bear and I spent so many years screwing in cars and woods and heaven knows where, I still really like the bed. Bed being kinky, that's funny, but really common with a Family Bed, as well. When Bear and I had a lot of babies and toddlers in the house, we used to do it in the bathroom. OW. "Porcelain butt" and getting the outline of the tiles and grout from the bathroom floor on your ass or knees is even worse than rug burns.
Maybe if you have your partner hold on to your hips and guide you in a way that makes him feel good...then maybe you'll get the hang of it...
Hee hee hee hee, Thank you, sweetie, Really, I've been having sex for nigh on 28 years. I just prefer a bed. Had my years fucking in tents and the woods and cars, and bathrooms ect. Bear is more than a foot taller than me, so having sex standing doesn't really work. We've tried everything, and we end up laughing so hard, he loses his boner. It's easier to lie down, or at least semi reclining. I do appreciate your caring, though. We fell in the shower once. LOL. I am so glad neither of us needed to go to the hospital. A bomp related injury. That would have been funny.
i've had to devise a schedule and plan out where and how it's gonna get done. i think if i'd put this much effort into my creative writing classes i'd have probably been published by now.
I was thinking the same thing... also I've found that if it feels good to you it'll usually feel good to them too, so let go of your inhibitions and enjoy yourself! That'll also make you seem and feel more confident, a definate turn on for most men.
