I'm selling out

Has your husband asked you to change or anything? I mean, he knew how you were when he married you, right? So shouldn't he still love you the same?

 

I saw them in 2005 at Merriweather Post Pavillion in MD. They were WAY better than I expected. But I am up for suggestions. Where should I stick them?

 

like everyone has been saying you've got to figure out who you are. a wanna-be-hippie, a sterotypical hippie, a peace maker, a love spreader, a nature freak, or whatever.
Also driving 40 miles to avoid wal-mart sounds silly to me as a car burns petrol and other environmental issues. when you find out who you are, you will be much more confident. And when you are more confident, you can have a more positive impact on people.
Good luck earthy girl in whatever life chucks at you,

 

those are some very mature and wise words coming from a 14 year old!!

 

Yeah, so so true. I think I know who I am, unfortuantly, I don't want to be that person because I want to be the total opposite from a hippie. Why? Not because I don't love the lifestyle, but, because it doesn't fit in my life. it tears my life and the relationships in my life, apart.

 

could you be more specific?? i just dont understand how it would conflict in your life unless you were in politics or something

 

And what's the opposite? A meathead / Jock / asshole?

 

Well, I talked to my hubby and he said that he wanted us both to change our lifestyle a bit. So, he's going to be joining me in some of my hip-activities. Plus, we are both going to get more healthy.

 

I don't and never have understood why people who do not injoy the same things in life get married.
I know a ton of people who get high and have been right in front of their spouse and the spouse never knows. To me it is living a lie and not being true to self. Where is the trust and communication.

People have to work on relationships with openness and truth. Living a lie only consitutes more decite in later yrs.

Being "Hippie" is not something you can turn off and on like a light switch. If you are a true hippie you will remain so, you can not more change a hippie then you can the strips on a tiger. Anyone that asks someone to change does not like that person very well. Why would someone want to be with a person who doesnt like them for who they are and what they stand for. Making adjustments is one thing, but try to strip someone of their beliefs is wrong thinking. We each have a path, and do as thy will but harm none.

You cannot take a brown horse and intimidate it into being a grey horse and expect it not to buck you off. Just bc your married, does not turn over ownership of the other.If your spouse loved you they would not ask you to change, I mean why marry someone if you want them to be someone else, you can only be who you are. There are adjustments made whenever more then one enity shares a space, but to have to change into something that is not true to self leave you no peace within the union.

Communication is the key to understanding. Keep talking, it sounds like there is a window opening.

Bright Blessings
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You dont have to be a hippie to want to eat right or take care of yourself, everyone on the planet should be doing that anyway.

 

Don't let anyone change you. Do what makes you happy, but don't conform to any other word other than your own. I'm probably the least hip person in this forum, and I'm sure many others would agree, but be free and be yourself.

 

thanks

 

earthygirl...this is what you need to know!!! these words are so true, especially in a relationship....i hope you guys get thigs worked out and you both find enjoyment in each other. if not, i hate to say it, but i dont think yours will be a happy marriage

 

Hey babe do your astrology and your husbands and get somebody to compare your charts and see why you are with the dude and what the prognosis is. As a hippie this should be no problem for you but I spose you better keep it a secret from old hub and crew.

 

:jester:


We must learn to forgive ourselves so that we may love one another.

arty:

PEACE

 

I am glad it sounds like he's willing to compramise a little and join you in your activities. Do you think mebbe he was just too busy with school and work to go play in the woods?

It is hard to tell what is going on because there are not a lot of specifics...so I'll just share my own experience.

My husband and I are complete opposites and he teases me all the time about being a hippie, although I have never considered myself one. We'll have been married 14 years in April and it is a constant adjustment in learning to respect each other and offer acceptance. It is so worth the effort though because as the years stream past we work closer to a middle ground. Rich never goes to hip activities with me and i never go to his four wheeling trips or the races or whatever..but we meet up when we are done and share stories. I have had relationships with men that were just like me interest wise, and they never worked out. My husband is just like me soul wise and it seems like to me that means more than just what we like to do together, it's about how we grow and live...or something,I am still working on the words for it.

I am a prep/jock that realised that it was more fulfilling to be nice to people and treat everyone like equals with acceptance, and as I learn more about how our bodies energy works I get more into what we eat and where we get it from...you know what I mean? It comes in levels like molly and SE said, but it is about your own personal development, not what you look like. I love making my own clothes because I don't like the mass produced crap at the stores and they express ME, not because it's a 'hip' thing to do. I make my own soap because I can make it better than I can buy it...you get my drift?

You do what works for you.


Now my redneck (he's not really a redneck but he did grow up on a farm out in ND, so I like to tease him too what goes around comes around) hubby sees me hardly ever getting sick and and is intrigued by the growing sense of happiness that I exude with each passing year and he starts to get curious and in those precious moments I get to share just a taste of what it is like to be me and it is very contageous if you are doing it right and an excellent lesson for those that dare in commitment to what you are about, to do something even when it is not popular takes alot of charachter.
Most people just want to be happy though and realise that appearances are very superficial ways to judge people so they seek out that deeper connection intuitively.
When he teases me it is just because he does'nt understand and people make fun of what they don't get, or he's just bored and I have given him fodder. It's nothing personal. It's their problem. You are impeccable how ever you choose to be.

Just be you, who ever that is, and do the things that you do with joy and abandon because being happy helps you live longer no matter what your lable is.

 

:jester:


HAPPY THANKSGIVING


arty:

PEACE

 

Well, it's still a hot topic in our house these days. I told him that I didn't think it was fair that he could be himself but I couldn't. So, he told me to do what I do...be who I am. And give him time to adjust. I just hope everything works out. I love him so much, but I don't want it to be a fake love. I want him to love me for who I really am , not who I pretend to be, so that he will like me.

 

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