For the past few months, I've been more and more discontent with my girlfriend of two years. The main reason is that we can only see each other once a week. For a (sort of) long-distance relationship, that's pretty good, but I don't feel satisfied with it. When our relationship started we would spend days a time together, either exploring the city or just lying in bed. Now, we're very busy and we rarely even have the time to spend the night. This makes us try to cram as much as possible into our metings, which often end up disappointing. Sexually, too, the pressure to do it at a fixed time causes alot of problems for both of us, either because we're not in the mood or our bodies simply aren't wired to gave sex during the only times we can have it. I figured out that we have sex maybe every two or three weeks. For me, that's just not enough. It's not that I'm unhappy with her, but I am uncreasingly unhappy in our relationship. As for 'Why not see each other more often?' it's really not possible, given our schedules and our distance from each other. And the fatc is that we both kind of know we don't have a long-term future together, so centering our lives around each other doesn't seem right. What am i to do?
If you both know you don't have a long-term future together, why waste any more of one another's time? Having been in a long distance relationship for the past year and a half, I can truly say that I would never even try without a light at the end of the tunnel, some reasonable time by which we will definitely be living together. My fiance and I will be living in the same house by this coming May, come hell or high water. Of course, I'll be honest -- I can't imagine why you would put up with a long distance relationship for so long with someone that you don't see a future with.
I suppose 'long distance' is kind of an exaggeration; it takes us about an hour and a half to travel betwen where each our dorms. Still, this is kind of limiting if we have stuff to do during the day or we aren't spending the night.
da,m dude..shes an hour and 1/2 away...if your not seein her enough get off your lazy ass and go see her ya could go see her every night..it aint that hard but seems like ya dont wanna put forth any effort..so u might as well just give up
I completely agree with everything you said here, and I wanted to second it. Why be in a long distance relationship with someone you don't see a long term future with? I sure as hell would not be in the relationship now I am in now, if I didn't see a light at the end of the tunnel. Even if that light is probably over a year away, it's there. I say break it off, you guys can't make time for each other, and since you say there is no long term future, why waste the time?
or if you dont want to break it off, sit down and have a serious talk with her. discuss how you can make some REAL changes to be able to have the kind of relationship you want. in this you should be able to see if both of you are willing to make the life changes necessary to be together a lot more. if you find you're not...it was probably over anyway.
Yep, talk to her and try and arrange something you'd both be happier with. If this doesn't work, move on. I, too, am wndeirng though why you are still there if you can't see a longterm future with her?
damn, i wish my bf was jus and hour away. we both go to different colleges too....im in MD and hes in GA tho..
