how do you approach the future with your S.O. and go about asking "those questions"?

even if something like marriage or kids is not in the near future, it should be talked about to make sure you are on the right page, am I correct? If you are serious with someone, you should not hide that. And that sentiment goes along exactly with the ideal that couples should feel free to talk about anything. openness.

so, with that said, even if something life changing (like kids) is OBVIOUSLY not on the horizon, how do you bring it up? I mean, there are times when you have an opening to bring it up..but I don't want to seem like I am implying I want kids NOW! I just want to make sure we are on the same page for the future..better now than figuring this stuff out five years down the road that one wants kids and the other does not. not like I want to scare her, no, just sincerly curious!!!

there are certian questions that should be asked once things are serious, those two amoung them.

 

lol just bring it up
alotta ppl ask those questions right off the bat to size up a potential mate and make sure theyre lifepath matches yours
just ask her..so do you like kids..what are your thoughts on marriage..heres awhat i think...
it doesnt have to be a scary converstation like we gotta have 12 kids..now!!! just ask her what her thoughts are onthe subject and start a conversation

 

maybe I worded that incorrect too.

more of wondering how other people do it.

I did ask her about marriage

I remember telling her "my mom said if we get married she has come to terms with the fact that I would probably move to europe" (the two have met and loove each other, haha)

so I used that to ask her opinions on marriage. she has never thought of it. but she is certiantly more geared towards it than not.

 

ahhh ok..well..never had any problem talkin over these sortsa things
i sorta have the opposite problem, and things get discussed too easily..like last 3 gf's asked me to marry em within 2 weeks of gettin together
but anyway..never had any probs bringin up any subjects, and we'd just discuss dreams and ambitions and plans for the future all the time

 

I guess just bring it up and hope for the best. It is scary sometimes to ask questions like that, believe me I know...but you have to just go with it, I suppose.

 

just casually bring it up...tell her u know that u have talked about some important things...but u dont' know where she stands on children...does she want them or not...and tell her that u don't want them now...but ur wondering for future reference...i'm just happy my BF and i just seem to run into random topics...

 

jsut ask, dont interrogate... just ask, and when she gives you an answer, if you dont agree with her, dont attack. Just give yourself some time to come to terms with what you both feel on teh issues and decde whether or not its a deal breaker then.. after you've thought it through

 

"Y'know, I'm thinking more n' more about you all the time, and spending a good part of my life with you. Waddyou think?" If she agrees,"well then, how do you feel about kids, and waiting awhile after marriage to have 'em, and sex, and all that other stuff?" That's all any serious woman needs. Just look at ALL the comments from 'em up above. Give her the opening, she'll take it If she's interested. Be ready for anything though, once you open that act of your life! She may want the slow lane, you sound ready to charge.