Close to somebody with Bipolar disorder?

What is the hardest thing about it for you to deal with?

Something you might not think of, but I have a really hard time with people who just cannot get it thru their heads that it IS actually a real thing, a real disability, and the person is NOT just being an asshole. Folks find it hard to grasp that the person with bipolar is actually NOT behaving badly on purpose, and that they honestly can NOT control what they are doing. So too easy to judge. I get really tired of those who think that someone with bipolar disorder should just be "kicked to the curb" because of the way they act sometimes.

My other thing is simply trying to keep from going insane myself and keep a positive attitude when the other guy is busy spewing negativity everywhere like a wet blanket all over everything.
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I agree with you earthmother. Even though I also have a form of the disorder, it can be hard to deal with when my bf (who also has it) starts to act up and be an asshole. It's hard to remind myself that it is the disorder talking and not him. Especially when he gets drunk and starts shooting off at the mouth about scary things (don't want to go into details). I love him very much and I have to remember that!

Peace and love

 

I totally agree. However, I know that I am crazy. I just don't like it when other bi-polar people know they are crazy and don't take their medicines. That is when they are assholes. I know many bi-polar people who abuse coke, pills, alcohol, when they know that this is stuff that they should avoid. These people also have the right medication at home, but they won't take it. They believe that they don't need it. That is what I have a problem with.

 

I hate it when people post shit that medication is bullshit. Most of these people don't need medication in the first place. Some people really do, such as people with mood disorders. Now that my bf is taking his meds again, I notice a change in him, like he's doing his homework and studying instead of getting high. I can't say this is the medication entirely, but it has helped him want to do his work. It's also improved our relationship a lot. Otherwise, the disorder makes him appear really lazy and that gets him down. It's hard for him to believe sometimes about how much being bipolar affects him without being medicated until he's back on the right meds.

Peace and love

 

Nobody posted that medicines are bullshit hippie chick

 

Not on this thread but read some of the others... It really pisses me off. I can give examples, if you would like.

Peace and love

 

I believe that, absolutely. Bi-polar people that are unmedicated are more likely to committ crimes, get into trouble at work or school, etc. I used to date a bi-polar guy who did not take medicine. Now he was an asshole. He did a lot of coke and used to scare the hell out of me. My bi-polar mom is diagnosed as depressed, however, we all think she is bi-polar. I wish she could get the right medicine. Me, I take anti-anxiety pills and do the best I can until I get better help from this damn medical system that we have in this world.

 

That must have been scary for you, alloy. I'm sorry you had to deal with that ex. ((hugs))

Peace and love

 

You are very sweet and supportive hippie chick. Are you interested in the counseling fieldat all? You would probably make a good one.

 

I've considered it. My love right now is geology though. Maybe in another life, I'll be a therapist...

Peace and love

 

I'm not really sure, but my best friend/ex boyfriend -might- be Bipolar.

Usually, he is a sweet guy, easy going, fun, jokes about everything...

But sometimes his self esteem drops to an extremely low level, he sleeps all the time, barely eats, doesn't do anything but lay around, cries, & is really,really irritable and paranoid. He thinks that everyone hates him and pushes everyone away. He has no motivation for anything.

Other times, he is really extremely hyper and loud and happy, yet he gets completely bitchy and narcissistic seeming...he called me up one day like this and spent an hour yelling at me for no apparent reason. He was screaming at everyone who he lived with...the next minute he'd start laughing at nothing...but he wasn't joking about being so angry...When he's like that, he always says a bunch of scary things that seem homicidal.

This isn't like a switch within a few hours, like with some people...usually every few weeks he turns into what seems like a completely different person.

He hallucinates sometimes. He was comitted to a mental hospital once, but I don't really know why.

I don't know...I love this guy to death but he is SUCH a difficult person...I put up with it all,though because I love him. He's one of the best friends I could ask for. I want to be there for him, I want to get him help but I don't want him to hate me for it.