some of you all may have seen the post about my BF being a virgin...Well anywho's...I was reading some of what you were saying...My BF straight up does not want oral done on him ever...He says it's some weird fear he has...I thought all guys wanted it...not that i'm complaining...cuz i'm not...i'm not into the whole oral thing...Just wondering how many of you also thought this was weird...
I find it a bit weird, maybe if he didn't want perform oral so he felt to guilty about making his g/f do it I could understand, but a fear of it?
People can certainly have some strange fears. Like my fear of people. I'm just as wtf as you are about it.
The reason why he doesn't want oral is probably the same reason why he is still a virgin at the age of 30. Consider this. The guy has never had sex. It's probably not due to him being ugly or anything. As you said he never kissed a girl before you. Sounds like he is really shy and.. well just plain introverted. People like this tend to make up their own rules about how they should live their lives, and often exclude any outside input. He has probably made choices based on these rules, such as the choice to be a virgin. As far as oral sex is concerned, well, I relate all types of sex: oral, anal, and vaginal as being sex. So it's possible that he doesn't want to have oral sex, for the same reason that he doesn't want vaginal sex. I feel the urge to attribute all this to some sort of deep guilt of something that occured in his past ( perhaps he was molested ), but I'll hold off on that. I'm not a therapist, and even if I was, it would be unethical to psychoanalyze someone I've never even met. Anyway, Good luck.
I did read a thread on here awhile ago about a guy that didn't want his gf giving him oral because he attributed the practice to sluts, and didn't want to think of his gf that way. Not a total mystery, just has to do with his personal attitudes towards sex.
zanarkand...u brought up some very interesting points...i do know that he had a very good childhood...he was very sheltered...but he is very shy...and very career oriented...he on ur last comment...he has the utmost respect for me...i never thought that he would view it like that...i should ask him...cuz maybe what he's taking as fear is really the way he views certain things...
he sounds a bit screwed. his choice sounds based on fear rather than self. maybe he needs some therapy.
i met a mathematician (they tend to be insane) who viewed oral as the same as licking a urinal and thought all things sexual were beneath him (his reasons were that animals have sex..animals cant do math..so therefore humans are above all thingss animal so shouldnt have sex) edit: adding: many mathematicians also only cum when they see a beaitiful math equation..yea weird bunch all i'm sayin by this is that people develop theyre views on sex based on theyre experiences, and if hes as sheltered as u say perhaps his views on sex were currupted..or never fully developped odviosly sex hasnt been a priority in his life, but i have a feelin once hes started exploring hids sexuality he may change his tune on the oral thing or he maybe alittle weird..but whats that matter when u realize there certainly are weirder
i'm hoping that he will be more open then most of my friends think...i know it will take sometime...but who knows...he may suprise me...
Mathemeticians, economists and chemists. They are either complete sociopaths or suffer from Aspbergers. You either can't get through to them or can't convince them that someone might possibly have a valid idea unless they thought of it first.
Im glad that my man ain't any of those...his major in college wa creative writing...don't know what his minor was though...never asked...haha...so no worry there...
Once he has sex with you, I think he'll loosen up a little and might want to explore that idea... Just because he doesn't want it now, doesn't mean he'll never want it...he just doesn't know what it feels like yet to have that warm feeling all over him...he'll enjoy it someday
