Okay so i joined this site for two reasons...One I'm 24...And I'm dating this totally amazing guy...I have strong feelings yes...But one thing...I'm not a virgin he is...He's almost 30...Don't ask me how he slipped through the cracks...But he did...We are planning on having sex but I feel so guilty to take that part of his innocence...I could see a future...But until me he hadn't even kissed a girl...See...If it were up to me I would keep him this way forever...I know this is not fair to him...But he's so innocent...And I think that's some of the appeal that I have for him...So my questions...Is it normal to feel guilty about taking someone's virginity...Second do you think it would be best if him and I were in complete love, before we had sex???Just curious on y'alls thoughts...
I think its sweet of you to want to protect him but I was wondering... Do you feel you are not up to the job in terms of being someone worth of his virginity? I think if you baby him too much on the issue you might end up creating more of a fuss than it really should be, and he might ed up resenting you. Its just sex, and it really doesnt change who he is as a person.
Thank you all...Him n I had a very long talk last night...We are waiting until Dec 31...That way both of us well be more comfortable...He told me last night that he wants to go visit family in TX/OK in March so yeah...I dont feel so bad after our talk last night...
lol...i'm really wondering if we will even wait that long...i'm crashing at his place the day after thanksgiving and i want to be with him so bad...
Hi Butterfly and welcome. Sex is good, especially with someone you care about. Sounds like your bf is missing out on one of the greatest joys life has to offer.
i find it harder...to not do anything with him...i want to be w/him in every sense of the word...n he told me tonight he feels the same...so i'm hoping that soon...he will be not so mr innocent...i know that's wrong to say...but i really care for him deeply...i can't almost say i love him...
i'm dfiently falling for him...interesting you ask that question about him though...see a few days ago we were talking...i said something he really liked...n he said i so love you...like a min later he's like that's not what i meant to say...he said that he meant to say i so love it when you say that...a lot of the time we talk he thros love in a bunch...like i love it when you say that...or i love when you do that...just using the "L" word a lot...almost confuses me...
a month...i kmow not long...but my parents knew each other a month b4 they got married...they haven ow been married for 12 yrs...so u never know...
Don't rush into things...that's all I'm going to say about that. Especially with a guy who isn't very experienced...not just sexually, but relationship-wise. He may find out in a few months when things start to get a little more complicated that he might not want a relationship after all.
that's y i'm not really telling im all that i'm feeling...i have been in that situation b4...it really sucked...i just hope it don't happen w/him...
That's not to say that you can't fall in love early, I mean, my partner and I have been together over a year now and we told eachother we loved eachother after a week...of course I felt it the day I met him (yeah, how corny, but he has said it many of times that it was love at first sight for him)...but with someone without a lot of experience in relationships, I just would be a little bit more careful.
