Okay...for some reason I have never been able to have an orgasm from oral sex. My ex just understood and never made a big deal out of it. But the guy I'm now seeing is obsessed with it. I've tried to tell him that he's not doing anything wrong, that I just can't get off that way. The harder he tries the more frustrated I get. Then he feels hurt and the whole moment is ruined.
What does work for you? Have you told him? If he's that demanding not to honor what you say, he might not be the man for you. Otherwise, let him lap away while you secretly reach for your clit - or doesn't mastubation work for you either?
There is a porn star named Chloe that can't have orgasms clitorally. When she was a little girl she had an accident playing on the monkey bars, in which she fell and landed on one, smashing it between her legs, damaging all the nerves in that region. She can only have orgasms via vaginal and anal penetration (g-spot stimulation). Judging from her performance, its better like that anyway (unless ofcourse she's faking it, which I doubt).
Oh my goodness, you actually believe that porn stars don't fake their orgasms? Are you just being silly or are you serious?!
Hmmm, for me, those are one of my favorites ways to have orgasms, even more intense than the usual ones stemming from intercourse. However, I have heard that for some women, oral sex can be almost painful, overstimulating in a way. Maybe he needs to work on his technique? Don't feel frustrated and put all of the blame on yourself! Perhaps it could be due to your past experience with it as well, that you're anticipating NOT being able to reach climax, that you feel pressure, whether it's subconsciously or not?
I think this could be psychological...you THINK you can't, therefore you won't. It's self-defeating right away before giving it an actual chance. My advice is to just let yourself go...enjoy it...clear your mind...and just be there in the moment. I love when my partner goes down on me...it feels amazing...
I know porn stars fake their orgasms. I said doubt that this particular porn star fakes her orgasms. www.chloexxx.com I'm not going to go so far as to say that I know when a woman is faking it or not. I'm just saying I've seen this one in movies, and I don't believe that she's faking. Seriously, she starts having full body spasms, and then is curled up on the floor, continuing to spasm out.
Got this from wikipedia According to press releases, a childhood accident rendered her numb from clitoral stimulation. In an audio commentary for The Pushover (1999), director Jayce Rocker elaborated that at an early age the actress lost her footing while walking on a set of monkey bars and the subsequent landing irreperably damaged the nerves in her clitoris, rendering the organ numb. He attributes this as the likely cause of her vaginal and anal supersensitivity; mass-penetration scenarios with explosive climaxes have since become her trademark. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chloe_(porn_star)
