how to be supportive but not worried

I am currently in a relationship with a woman for about 8 months. A little background on things....


I am 40 she is 36. Our relationship is wonderful and we connect on virtually every level, and everything between us couldnt be better.

She has been under treatment for panic attacks for the last few years. She has been under the care of a psychiatrist, and her medication is 200mg zoloft per day, and klonapin as needed, along with seraquil to help her sleep. With all of this, she still has the occassional panic attack and possible bouts of depression.


She struggles trying to get drinking under control on her own right now. Her psyc dr seems to keep telling her that she shouldnt be in a relationship, but as im sure you can understand, we have been together 8 months, and not likely to end a perfect relationship when its one of the things in her life that makes her happy, and me as well.

Is it appropriate for a psych dr to give therapist direction? The dr in my opinion is not focusing on how her meds are working or not working. I have a background of personal experience with depression and have been in long term relationship with a previous partner that suffered from depression, and think that the psych trying to direct her in lifes actions is somewhat out of the drs primary focus.

My question would be.....what can i advise my girlfriend, and how do I keep myself from focusing on being secure in my relationship, with the knowledge that there is a dr pushing for the relationship not to exist.

 

thats sorta standard procedure anytime theres any question about wether or not a relationship is going to ultimately be harmful in the long run..
its not that he doesnt think your relationship is good..its just his training telling him she may not be ready
only advice is to keep things confortable and uncomplicated and it will work out..

 

Yep, like soaring eagle said, if it's meant to be, it will. Don't take what the Dr. said personally.

Peace and love

 

well it seems as if my loved one is on a roller coaster of soarts. one day she misses me if i am at the store for too long, and over the last 3 -4 days we have talked briefly and she went out with girlfriend last night to tie one on.

the drinking is an issue for sure with meds