Woman on top?

So I've got a question. I'd like to stay annonymous about every detail about my life, as it's part of my paranoid nature. (Earn my trust. Sorry I'm wierd haha) I did have a few questions, though. So uh, here goes:
When I have sex with my girlfriend, she isn't too into the woman on top thing. That's kind of all I'm into: It's not that I don't like to do my share of work (she never goes to bed uneaten), but I kind of despise being in charge. For some reason, I hate taking the lead role. I'm not quiet or awkward or sexually retarded, I just like girls that take the initiative. Now I'll admit this must be rare, but HOW rare? Wait: Does it even exist outside of corny leather/s&m porn? And can any girls get pleasure from being on top? Mine only gets pleasure from me going down on her, and one or two specific positions with me on top. I'm new here, so please tell me what you know (guys and especially girls)

 

I don't like being in charge too much. I'm not a submissive, but I don't like "having to steer" all the time. For one it's a shitload of pressure (I don't like my partner to be completely in charge either, because I don't feel they can truly enjoy themselves if they have sole responsibility) ... and for two, it sort of hurts me because I am very small and my muscles contract even further when I'm straddling someone.

wow that was a lot of personal information :&

I am SURE that I am the exception to the rule, though! Or so I've been told.

 

Thanks a lot. Don't feel weird about "giving too much info". It feels kind of weird talking about stuff, even anonymously but hey, that's what the internet's for. Thanks a lot.

 

Gotta talk to your chick, let her know what you are into. There is nothing like communication!

 

Hahaha...ok...now I feel like the STRANGE one....never been on top.....but you sound pretty normal to me.

 

An old girlfriend and I used to always fuck with her on top--she was a big girl, and I enjoyed being dominated. I was only dominated to a degree, though--it was just wild rough sex! One thing I liked about her being on top is I could have my hands on her ass while we fucked. Also, sometimes she would lean up to get a good angle, and then I could work her boobs.

 

dude, that's exactly what I want. As you said "wild rough sex!". Did she actually like this domination/lead role stuff or did she just do it to give YOU a good time?

 

She honestly loved it. That's what we were all about. It was loads of fun (while it lasted--unfortunately we got into serious relationship stuff after a while, and it spoiled everything.)

 

I'm not a big fan of being on top. I've never quite gotten the rhythm down on my own, my hips start hurting from it (mmmm arthritis) and it's honestly awkward to maintain unless I have something right by my arms to help balance myself. It's worked best when the guy thrusts up as well, meets me somewhere inbetween so it's not just me doing all the work.

I'm a submissive gal though. The hottest time I was ontop was with the guy who would meet my thrusts, not just lay there, and he also grabbed onto/pulled my hair to help guide me as to what time he wanted *drools* I love having my hair pulled.

 

Woman on top or on bottom, I have never looked at this as a control/dominance vs. Submission/controlled situation. It has always been a matter of changing things out a litle or as a matter of comfort for one or the other. I would never want to control or be controlled during sexual contact. The bed is one of the places for total equality in my mind, but to each his/her own.

 

Chronic, If you're girl is like me, woman on top is just not always as stimulating as man on top (or my personal fave, man behind, lol). I don't have as much physical force as my man does, and if your girl likes it hard, she's not getting it the way she wants when she's on top. Hubby and I compromise on this, I take the top for awhile, then he does. Communicate with her, tell her how much it turns you on for her to ride you like a pony, lol, or however you would express it, then show her once she's in position: get passionate, grab her ass, pull her down close to you and work on her titties, use your thumbs to rub the "sweet spot". Then when her motor's really running, flip her over and give it to her! Whew, I'm gonna have to find my hubby...

Above all, show her your love, and have fun with it!!

 

thanks alot

 

You're welcome!

 

*shudders* being asked to ride someone like a pony would sooooo turn me off
But that's me. This is why it's good to know your partners boundaries, turn offs, those sorts of things.

 

(taking notes) So girls aren't turned on by ponies? lmao. Thanks, everyone and keep the feedback coming

 

yeah, being on top is definitely a "when i'm in the mood" sort of thing......i enjoy the eye contact and the glamorous feel of the position, but i tend to make the guy climax too quickly, and where's the fun in that?

 

I dunno. I would usually go a long time. But one of the thrills of sex is to withhold cumming, thereby increasing the excitement as the fuck goes on. Of course, this is easier done while masturbating than with a real girl.

 

No, surprisingly ponies do not turn women on.
Mostly. I mean, I'm sure there are some ...

But in all seriousness, and completely off-topic -- it's a common misconception that horseback riding is sexually pleasurable for women. I ride professionally, and let me tell you ... depending on how hard I am riding, it is either a neutral sensation (like sitting on a fencepost) or downright uncomfortable. On bad days it can even be painful!

While I've been told that the body-control one learns as a horseback rider can lead to some excellent sex-periences ... I do not think there are many men (except those with specialized tastes) who would want me to ride them like I ride my horsey!

Anyway ... back to the subject ... :leaving:

 

you could try some role playing? Put her in teh dom role? Or as some else said, met her "half way" so she's not doing alllllllllll the work my bf also loves me on top xD i dont know why girls dont like it! I mean sure its tiring...but also so rewarding, esp if youre a more naturally dominant person XD

 

Aren't people particular..? I've always felt that variety is the spice of life, personally. I like all the positions i can manage. Even the awkward ones can be fun every now and then.