Help out a n00b! haha

Okay, I'm sure there have been millions of these threads, but please, everyone humor me here. I've never had sex before, and I know I'm going to really soon...and I just want any tips, words of advice, hell, encouragement, ANYTHING. Haha. I am completely ready, there is no doubt about that. I love this girl with all of my heart and soul, and I know she is the one, so I just want this to be absolutely PERFECT. I'm going to get candles in her favorite scent, too.....So yea, any advice would be great. I'm just nervous of messing this up, and when I get nervous, talking about it helps. So...talk away! haha. Thanks everyone.

 

Haha, first off, way to go man, it's prime time! Just relax and let her know that there's no where else in the world you'd rather be than right there with her. Don't worry too much, worrying only gets in the way of getting off to a good start. haha

In your case, I would say start slow, keep an eye on her body signals...there will DEFINITELY be body signals! They will tell you wether you need to keep doing what you're doing, or chnge approaches. Kiss her, touch her, be gentle, BUT assertive at the same time. Overall, watch her carefully, and she will let you know what's working and what's not.

But most of all, ENJOY YOURSELF. And GOOD LUCK!

 

You may want to consider jerking off ahead of time.... a lot of guys cum very easily/fast their first time around.

Go slow, take your time exploring her body (and having her explore yours). Don't be afraid to ask questions, like for her to place your finger on her clit, if action x or y feel good, if she wants faster/stronger/softer. I mean, don't constantly question her, but a few questions from time ot time make it a lot easier to suggest or direct your partner.

Ummmm... what else. Make sure you've showered recently and are wearing clean clothes. You would think that would be an obvious one but some people need to be told. If you can get her to orgasm via oral before hand that's awesome, but don't freak out if she doesn't cum your first time around (ie don't put a lot of pressure on her to orgasm, since presure is rather counter to plateauing)

 

Enjoy, don't stop.

 

unless she says stop :tongue:

 

Hmm...and here I was trying to not jerk at all, because I want it to be strong and such when it happens...haha.

I'm definetly not afraid to ask questions of what I should do...what I'm always afraid to do is to tell her what I want. I'm definetly a giver, and I never like asking for things because I don't want to seem like a selfish ass or anything. I of course want things done to me, but for some reason, I'm always too scared to ask...

The showering won't be a problem, I'm alwasy a really clean person, hell, I make sure I'm clean just before making out! haha And yes, knowing the people we are, I'm planning on a lot of foreplay beforehand, and even after. I'm definetly not going to put a lot of pressure on her to orgasm, being that we won't be alone in the house...and I know she is a very...vocal...person...haha. At least, thank god, we'll be in a nice big bedroom in the basement, but still, my folks will be asleep upstairs, and she doesn't know how to keep quiet very well.........

 

Hmmm, I would've hated for my first time to happen with others in the house, where I couldn't be as vocal as I wanted. But, that's me.

Anywho, the jerking off thing.... not necessarily immediately before, but a couple hours beforehand if you can, to take the edge off. I'm not a guy, but I've heard it recommended a few times.

 

Yea, she said its going to be really hard for her to not be vocal.....But the problem is, we're NEVER 100% alone it seems, and this really is the best chance we're going to get for a long time. We'll be downstairs, and my folks will be asleep upstairs, and not DIRECTLY above, more like above and further down...if that makes any sense...so I just wonder how much they would be able to hear.......

 

Just let her bite into your shoulders if she gets too vocal.

 

Ouch! lol

Good luck mayn.

 

Memorize this. Hell, print it out and hang it on your refridgerator. Read it. Know it. Live it.

Great advice.

Listen to her breathing and moans as well as body language for signals of what you are doing that she likes/dislikes.

Don't expect mind blowing sex right away. You'll have fun learning each others bodies for a while.

 

Well, from what she's saying, I highly doubt that it'll just be one time...hehe

We'll have six full days with each other, and we plan on using this to the fullest..

 

Marathon, not a sprint.

 

Oh I know what you mean. No worries, I don't think I could handle a sprint anyways, haha

 

Sooo.....a lot of foreplay beforehand is a good idea?

 

Always. Always always ALWAYS.

Unless of course she suggests a quickie. Otherwise, foreplay is pretty much a requirement. Ain't no way a guy is gonna get inside of me without foreplay (literally, not because I say no but because my body simply won't allow it). And with only a little foreplay, but not ample foreplay, sex is good but not great and only for a while.

Mmmmmmm foreplay.

 

Great foreplay will build momentum and will blow both of your minds when you get to the pinnacle.



As long as you are keeping her interested and she's responding in a positive way, foreplay - foreplay - foreplay!

 

Awesome, because foreplay is all we've ever done so far, and I freaking LOVE it Hell, I could do that for hours.......

 

Amen Brother, AMEN!!!

 

Well......the time is fast approaching (tomorrow night...), so, any last minute advice? hahaha