How can we let other men know wife is approachable?

My wife and I live in a small conservative town near a lot of relatives and coworkers, so anything wild we do is during trips the other side of the nation. My wife is full figured with large breasts and huge nipples that protrude through any clothes. She has a beautiful face. We really talked our desires out a few years ago and what we discovered was that once in a while, my wife would like to be a complete slut and, all the time I love this idea. A few years ago, we met a man and agreed to try to get them together. We were on an 8 day vacation, and through the awkward meetings and hinting around and feeling each other out on the subject, we finally hooked up the last night. He was a heavy set well endowed black man and it drove us both wild. We love it and want to do it more.

The problem is that our approach is too slow and we have been unable to repeat this over the last four years. We would have loved to met and been able to have our first friend over all 8 days.

Is there a way to let men know that my wife is approachable so we can speed this process up. We usually only have 3 to 6 days available on our get aways. We thought about short skirts and ankle bracelets. No one pays them any mind any more. Everyone dresses like that. Any ideas?

 

This won't happen for you at the mall or family restaurant.

We go to places that attracts people with a sexually liberal slant. One place we go to is nude beaches that attract mostly adults. Don't worry about her being full figured, most nudists are, most mature swingers are....Set near men who are alone (especially not with other men, ha!). They are there for a reason, to be seen and maybe get lucky. I always mention to the man we are interested in that my wife is self consious about her body. At this point they will either tell you that she looks OK (move on to another target) or that they really prefer full figure women and thinks your wife looks great (bingo)!

We also go to clubs that attract this type of client and wife dresses really cheap, (low cut tops that show everything when she leans forward, and no panties). The right men will start repositioning themselves to get a peak.

Good luck, happy hunting! Are you going to be in the room?

 

Not sure if the opinion of a younger gal will carry much weight, but here it goes:

Have you considered advertising in the personals? I've been all over the country, and most places have either a personal ad section, or an 'alternative' newspaper where you can advertise.

Also, it does take some time to build a relationship with people. People want to feel safe. Unless you're in a place like Tommz47 suggests, then it will be difficult. Coming from a small town I understand your problems there.

And please, put your personal safety first.

 

Yes, online swinger personals would be your best bet, unless she enjoys the thrill of seducing in person. Also, why don't you two contact that same black guy and set up another vacation in advance?

Also, look for online groups and forums on the topics of swinging or open-relationships.

 

Bars are usually a great place to go hunting......!!!!

 

I think you are right. She does enjoy the thrill of seducing another man. Otherwise, it would be like another night with....well me. The excitement is in the taking of a chance with your emotions with another person.

 

Much luck to you......

 

It just occurred to me that you could wear a tee shirt with no bra with "ask me and I just might" message printed on the front...maybe even large lip print underneath the sentence.

What do you think?

 

Tommz,

Actually that is a good idea (the tee shirt). We would be more selective with the message so to just create the idea, but not to make them think "anyone" who asks can have her. I'm trying to think of a good message now....

 

How about.....I MIGHT......that way it could be yes or no

 

I might....well,

You Know!

 

Hahaha........that would get them wondering !!!

 

I saw a woman wearing one several years ago (no bra and in a beach bar), that said:

68

You do me and I'll owe you one!

 

plenty of alcohol usually gets me in the mood!

 

a few drinks never hurt, letting the other guy know your husb is willing to share can ease the nerves too - lots of guys let their chicks flirt but one never knows how far it can go w/o being told!

 

Really the sure fired way is thru personals. Since the cyber expolsion, it's tremendously easy. I remember when Adam magazine was the only vehical for that in our area. Then the local porno shop had a cork bulliten board to post a pic and desires for a few bucks. It really did suck BIGBIG tho.

Yahoo groups has provided a lot of *fun* for us and almost free.

I love seeing my lady in pleasure, man or woman. Good luck.

Excellent thread.

 

let her flirt as much as she wants, let her be in charge of the situation.....if she gets all hot and heavy with a guy and then he sees her go back over to you, he'll get the hint that something spicy can happen

and by all means, start the hunt on the first days of your vacation - taking your time to get to know someone can really reduce the length of time you have to get your freak on and have some fun....it's all about how hot the lover is, not what a "good person" they are in this situation

 

We really appreciate all the suggestions. We think a combination of ideas will work. Scout out an area via internet to see where swingers tend to congregate, wear obviously slutty outfits..possibly with suggestive logos and be very flirty. We particularly like the nude beach idea where you can see what your getting. We are thinking about going to a nude beach that caters only to adults. She'll wear ankle chains and maybe some body jewelry and I'll go for frequent walks leaving her near some single men.

 

You are on the right track mature. You husband can check from remote location to see if any of them are checking you out and let you know which ones. You could ask them for help with the unreachable areas and sunscreen. I don't think I could rub sunscreen on a naked lady that I found attractive, while I was also naked without something popping up! Ha.

 

How 'bout a t-shirt that says, "FUCK MY WIFE."