maybe you are turned off by very feminine gay men because you are afraid of being percieved as such by other people. on the other hand, maybe you just like "manly" men. i have a friend that is a lesbian who does not like butch girls. she says they gross her out, and that if she wanted to date a manly chick, she may as well date a guy. so maybe it is just a matter of taste.
That's what I say. Why fuck a girl that looks and acts like a big burly man, when you could just fuck a man? Why fuck a guy that looks and acts like a frilly girl when you could screw a girl? If you want a man get a big bad man. If you want a girl get a girly girl.
Nothing is wrong with anyone. Everyone has different tastes and preferences. People are attracted to different types of people, there is nothing wrong with that gay, lesbian, or straight. -CB
ofcourse nothing's wrong with you. I just mean that's the way I see it. Nothing I say should make you feel bad, sexual preference is one of the most personal things in the world. I would never want to say anything that would make you feel bad about what you like, and I'm sorry if I did.
oh sweetie don't be sorry... i didnt really never felt bad for what u said. ur such nice guy!!! love tambgal
hmmm... i kinda think girly gay guys are cute in a way. Never been a fan of butch girls, though. But I'm straight so....... Maybe that's why. Also I agree with Kurt Cobain about everyone being gay (eventhough I'm straight). I know that makes no sense, but I think everyone checks out everyone, even if you'd never act upon those urges. Or a person can just look at another person and be like "hey they're pretty" or "That's the ugliest dude I've ever seen" no matter what sex they are. xxx Moonjava xxx
i'm gay and i'm naturally a fem guy. not camp though (nothing wrong with it i just don't think i am) i think when people resent me its because i don't feel the need to buy into what society thinks i should act like and i'm just me, a lot of people are so afraid to be themselves that they loose themselves. s
I really think that your attraction towards "manly men" is just personal preference. There's definitely nothing wrong with that.
What about the more masculine gay men? Do they do anything for you? There are lots of gay guys that are even more butch than straight guys, I've known some of them! There are even more gay guys that are what society would call "normal", of course. Guys that you would think have a wife, kid and dog, at home. In fact, that is more the "rule", in my experience... Not all gay guys are queens. They are just more notable, because their mannerisms are what we are trained to see as "unusual" for a man. But then too... I've known a couple of guys that to the outside world were total queens (because of their mannerisms), but they were really stick-straight. When I was experimenting with my sexuality, I found that I didn't like very feminine women. I preferred the more masculine ones. Have you discussed this with your gf? Maybe she would let you indulge a bit...?
Well, you explained yourself, but pretending it was a generalization - that would be to look at gender very simplistically. As if there were only two. I'm a relatively femme lesbian...some tomboy qualities as a serious mountainclimbin' athlete, but mostly femme. I love butch girls. Not necessarily a super-short haircut, not shaving, men's clothes, whatever - I like a butch attitude. It's hard to explain the attraction, but think of it (a stretch) like S/M. Feeling passive and wanting someone aggressive. And though aggressive girls tend to outwardly display some masculine characteristics, they're still girls, yes sir. Still girls who fuck girls. So once you're within that context...anything's possible and anything's sexy.
It's because the media LOVES it. According to the television, homosexuals are the most amazing decorators and fashion designers, and that's that. Even when a show is pretending to try and send the message that gay men aren't all like that, they still have specific very feminine qualities. Not to say that lesbians have it easy, but on TV, especially womens channels, Lesbians are made out to be great people, and completely "normal". Aside from comedies.
