erection problem during sex

Thanks for the advice.

 

Desert Nightmare - The basic problem is that you fuck with your brain and not your dick. When you start to get aroused, your brain sends a chemical to your penis which opens up the capillaries in the two sacks of the shaft (corpus cavernosa, they are called), the sacks fill with blood, and you get an erection. If you start thinking about something else - parents coming home, I hope I can get an erection and keep it up, is the telephone going to ring,am I going to get her pregnant, etc., you interrupt the flow of the chemical, and you start to go limp. That is why the male is configured to keep his mind totally on sex when he has intercourse - if his mind wanders, he loses it. It happens to everyone. I don't know how Bill Clinton managed to get a blow job from Monica and talk to two Congressman in the OOOOOOOOval Office at the same time. That took a lot of self control. Keep it up. Cutted

 

haha, kinda funny I stumbled on to this... I was so hungover today I couldn't get a proper erection for my girlfriend, haha...

but on topic, as lots and lots of people have said... It's a pretty normal thing for a first time... Just yay on having sex in the first place! The rest will come hehe... Practise practise practise

 

Will do, and just did. I don't have a problem with erection at all anymore. Just cumming. I haven't yet. She cums quick. Tonight we went for the longest we've gone so far. A whooping 20 mins i'd say. I Know it's not long, but it's a lot longer then we've been doing. I know i can go much longer but she gets tired and says she has to rest. By the time shes ready again, if she gets ready again, i'm already limp. I think i'm just going to go buy some loob. Also i like those warm condoms, they rock! I can actually stay hard wearing those.

 

To cum, try a lot of foreplay before you enter her, and make sure you are fully aroused. Oral sex or having her masturbate you often works. As you get more experienced, you can tell fairly easily how far along you are towards orgasm. You can feel a fullness in your groin as the sperm travels up the tubes and mixes with the semen. It is like a thermometer traveling slowly upwards.

Most guys your age have the opposite problem - they cum too soon and need training to retard orgasm. I have taught some clients techniques for retarding orgasm. If your girlfriend has her orgasm before you do, try another position where she does not have to work so much and you do all the work - the missionary position is good (male on top).

Cutted

 

Well i think i'll definitly cut back on my fore play on her first. Actually next time i'm not going to at all. I'm just going to get her to get me hard then go for it. Thats so i can go longer.

And as for the postion thing you speak of i'm pretty sure thats right the opposite of what i need to be doing. Thats what i have been doing and i think it's much better for me the more she does the work. Thing is she gets tired real quick though. She says shes never been with a guy that could go near as long as i can so she says she's going to have to get use to it. And we haven't even done it but for maybe 15-20 mins max.

I've been pretty much a cronic masterbater for years. I'd try to go everyday, and if i didn't get to do that it was almost always the next day. So i have a hard time stopping it. I'm thinking if i stop for about a week and let it biuld up then fuck her i'll cum for sure. I did manage to wait a whole week last week but when i found out we weren't getting together on saterday i said fuck it, and beat it. And as my luck turns out, yesterday she wanted to hang out with me and i fucked her then. So i'm thinking about just not masterbating for the rest of this week again then screwing her saterday. What do you think? Do you think it will make a difference?

 

Dester Nightmare - Stopping masturbating for a while will definitely help you cum the next time you are with her. If your sperm buildup gets more than 4-5 days, you may get a case of "blue balls" - your testes will be rock hard with sperm, and you will feel edgy and get erections often. Your dick will be asking for attention, but hold off if you can until you see her. Or if you can, tell her you have been saving it for her, and to hurry over (but use a condom of course). Try the missionary position, with a pillow under her butt, and you putting your weight on your elbows and knees. Try doing nine shallow thrusts, then one deep on, then eight shallow then two deep, then 7 and 3 and so on until you are doing 10 deep ones.

For foreplay - try 69 - you are eating her out while she is blowing you at the same time. That is a real turnon for some couples.

Sometime with woman on top the penis does not get hard enough to cum, although it is great for a woman - she is in control. Try putting your hands under her butt and helping her move up and down when she is on top - that may make her less tired, and you can watch your dick go in and out of her - a turnon.

Also, try a mirror near your bed and watch yourselves in action - your own porno film happening before your eyes. I don't recommend actually filming yourselves - ask Tommy Lee, Rob Lowe and Paris Hilton about that.

 

Ok i'll try this. And if i didn't already say, "thank you for all the help" well there you go.

 

I'm pleased to be of help in guiding you through the sexual maze - it is uncharted territory for someone your age, and to have a mentor in the journey (like i did with that older woman) is always a great help. Keep us posted on your progress. Cutted