Attracting the beautiful girls

Chris you really sound like a dick and like you wish to capture and own somone rather than developing a friendship and relationship with somone. I know for me I can tell right off the bat if a guy is really what I want...if he talks about himself trying to impress me i know he wants a possesion-not a girlfriend. If he asks about me I know he wants me, not just any decent looking girl.
I don't think you have any buisness dating anyone until you work on yourself a bit. Aren't you bothered by the way you present yourself and what's important to you?
I mean sure I would never date anyone who I found grossly unattractive but I've surley dated people who were physically not at all my type because I found them interesting, intelligent, humorous or ambituos.
Also, we're humans, we get fat once in awhile, we don't always look dressed up or cool. It's unfair to judge people that quickly. That girl you see who looks like a slob with no make-up at a cafe may have just got done at the gym, or had a late night the night before and is most likely one hell of a looker. The girls you mention with weight problems, it may be temporary. I know a lot of guys have regretted dismissing my attractiveness when I was overweight due to breaking my arm because as soon as I dropped the weight and became single I didn't have a free night for weeks and after experiencing not being 'ideal' for a few months I can now spot shallow guys a lot easier.
I would take your mind off dating until you are somone you would want to date. It's not as bad as it sounds...I'm doing it right now and I know when I make myself what I want to be I will attract much more quality people than I have been with in the past.
Basically, you need to change yourself not every girl around you. There's a reason you are having a hard time finding dates and it's a bit absurd to blame it on the female species.

 

This is very true. I have this chart in one of my old psych books and it says 'the way men view themselve's versus the way women do' men visualize themselves leaner, withbroader shoulders and chest than they really have and women tended to visualize themselves the equavilient of 2 sizes larger than they actually are. hah this is so true because whenever I bring clothes into the dressing room I always have to go back and get smaller sizes because my mind cannot visualize how I actually look.

It's unfair, mean are allowed to inflate their egos and think they deserve these great girls who have it all together and if a woman knows she is hot smart or succesful she's deemed as full of herself. And on top of it there are a multitude of men who rag on us for wanting to look nice, as if we don't deserve to give ourselves the time and attention to look nice.
It's like they're attracted to our looks but then once they 'get us' they don't want us to look nice at all. I have been in several relationships like that, not realizing at the time that my vanity is not a bad thing and I did not deserve with any of those guys to be told that it was. It's almost like they were saying I did not deserve my own attention.

 

A lot of girls put on weight when they get to university. They sit on their asses 30 hours a week listening to lectures and then study 20 hours a week doing homework. A lot of women lose weight just as quickly as they gained it after university. I've seen a lot of body chances in my short life. I don't think that's the motivation behind Chris' intentions at all. He's lonely more than anything.

And I would probably befriend him if I saw him sitting alone at a lunch table. I'm kind of just... like that.

Don't take everything people are saying about you to heart Chris. Grow up and learn to look deeper inside the people you are surrounding yourself by being comfortable in your own skin.

Best of luck.

 

Freshman fifteen.

But who the hell has 30 hours of lecture a week?

 

I do ):

 

spooner, lots of people do. I have 26 hours a week.

My eyes are going to fall out if I am expected to read beyond the material, which they probably will by the end of this year. Getting a little pudgy is the result of the life of a scholar. Some students work at offices, and have their own car. They sit essentially all day. It's only for a couple years though, and I'm going to say right now that fat students in university or colleges are human beings deserving of attention, love and respect from everyone that is good looking and from those who are not. They didn't get into school based on looks and they damn well deserve your admiration for working hard at something.

Harumph.

 

well damn...now im REALLY looking forward to college...i need to put on a few pounds. and using all of my spare time on these damn forums isnt working >:O

 

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eh Chris, if someone doesnt udnerstand, theres nothign we can do. NEVER listen to an advise about "dating-relationshiop" from Girls, it is usless ,stupid and doesnt make sense, all girls are the same, because , they are girls <3 and main thing for them is to give birth , not fuck and suck what we want. Therefore you have to talk differently, to them, because if yo utalk seriously... they dont understand, adn will think you are just some typycal loser, sucker, guy.. they need soemthign interesing , and of course good looking, if u can talk to girls and you look like bitch... thats minus a couple of points, can be very crucial.

 

I have a full courseload with 16, and 3 hours of optional tutorial.

I suppose if you took 5 courses with 5 labs it might be possible - but i'm never taking another course with a lab in my life.

 

You're crazy. All women are not the same, not all of us want to give worth, and a great many of us have goals beyond procreation.

 

hahaha id say never listen to advice like this guys..
i'll tell ya what, some of these girlds been givin ya great advice chris...

 

Ah. You must be quite a hit with the ladies.........:anger:

 

Maggie Sugar - yo uare right, if only you knew me in real life, you would enjoy our time together

Soaringeagle - lol, i would never talk normally or seriously to guys who look like you are now.... moreover listening for an advice.

Ihumerria - Everybody is different, But some things like men's desire for sex, or womens biological code that has procreation as a must are always there.

 

Beaver coffie= Beaver tea?

 

Please do me the courtesy of spelling my name right when addressing me. And I have no urge to procreate, absolutely none. I don't need to be spoken to differently because I'm female, don't need a guy to dumb down his discussion material around me for me to still want to date him or respect him.

I think you're assumptions about women are way out there. Yes there are women who fall under the descriptions you've used, but they are a very small percentage of the female student body that they're more anomalies than the rule.

 

you know, i know that i could not possibly, in my current shape attract someone as attractive as someone i could attract when i was in better shape. this is just a simple fact. if beautiful people are never attracted to you, it's likely because you're not on the same rung of the attractiveness ladder as they are. it tends to be that if you look hard enough, you can find people with whom you're more natural and comfortable and therefore more attractive AND attracted.

 

Wait , now i am bored and you amuse me, so I will pose a question.
1) why would men desire sex?

 

My girlfriends and I used to have conversations in college about what we were attracted to. My husband and I went out the other night and went around the room of the small bar we were in and told each other what our analyzation was of each person of our own opposite sex. It was fascinating. I thought for sure he would be attracted to the most attractive girls.

Surprisingly, we were both attracted to the people who seemed the most self confident and content. Not those looking around the room at who was looking at them. Not the quiet ones or the really loud ones. Just the ones who were happy to be where they were, and who they were with (friends, etc), and were being social.

So I guess, like who you are (not just what you look like) and you will like others more and they in turn will like you...the law of attraction. See the movie "The Secret". You can actually watch it on your computer for like $4. It's one of those life changing movies. It helps you understand how you can have ANYTHING you want in life and just makes sence.

 

dont sweat it too much man, just make friends with lots of girls and chances are, youll like one of them. it just sucks when you start thinking you might have a chance with some girl, and they say "no, you too much like a friend, not the dating type"
that just sucks.