My little lady, Shannon 12, is on the end of some name calling by her contempories, we dealt with it first time by speaking to parents, and was well. 3 weeks later it has returned, "Hands up who thinks Shannon is a skeleton". I believe she is being ostracised, this is, or soon will be bullying. Deciding my next course of action, any advice out there ?
I don't know really.. the fact you know about it is great, thats for sure.. I put up with bulying for about 4 years without telling my parents You could always go to the headmaster or even your MP.. Suprised their parents haven't sorted them out SOme kids are just evil gits
Chuffed she is talking to me, the school is an option this time, but trying to be rational at the mo, emotions have been raised.
I'm a firm believer that the best way to beat a bully is to punch him in the face. It might be different with girls, but telling the teachers almost always makes things worse in the case of boys, and the only way to beat the bully is to beat the bully up....
My old girlfriend got really badly bullied, huge graffiti on walls about her, beaten up etc, for two years, made her life miserable. She said if she'd just stood up for herself and given them a good beating like she could of then it probably would have been better. But she stood up for not lowering herself to their level. But if she gave one of them a thump or two it would help. As long as not everyone is really against her, dont want her being mobbed. Good luck.
For goodness sake, tell her that the people bullying her are idiots and must be ignored. That's ALL that needs doing, unless it gets violent of course. Who the hell WASN'T bullied at school..?? Kids just aren't allowed to grow up these days. I'll like to bully all these modern psychologists and so-called-child experts with an iron bar around the face.
She is at a hard age. I was in her boat once only fat not thin. I went through hell. The key is for you to show her enough support that she doesn't let it affect her mental state. They could just be jealous of her. Kids are cruel little creatures these days and they just keep getting worse as the years go by. I have run into several of the past little assholes that tortured me. They try to be nice now and get a nice go to hell response. I'd tell her to kick there asses but violence isn't always the answer. Good luck.
True enough, whatever gets done to sort it has to be done by her.. And yes, unless she knows the phrase (wording and mood are oh so important), then she will needs the inner strength from her parents.. You.. So yes, with a little intelligence on my side, I managed to time the moment to stand up my nemesis to wake him up to what he was doing most effectively.. Only it's different for everybody, and certainly a different approach for girls... I fully intended to do something physical if this hadn't worked, but in my planned arsenal were alot more than violence.. Always the practical joker in my better circle of friends, I toyed with so many different ideas that I got me a great troupe of mates that enjoyed my company.. And yes, you've guess it, the bully didn't seem so intimidating anymore. Just something that needed to be sorted so I could move on.. In this day and age, I'd give her the freedom to explore other people's experiences and triumpths over bullying using the internet.. I've found some wonderfully heartwarming stories already, and bullies have sometimes become friends who genuinely respected the person afterwards.
I am aware that I don't want to be running around after minor teasing making like a mother hen, but also trying to balance that against inaction which could leave them to ingraining their attitude, nip the bud early or leave it to flower ?
i hate bullys cowardly bastards " i always think what goes round comes round and they will recieve it back one day .
I was bullied. Then in high school someone said something and I about snapped on him. I didn't hit him or anything, but I scared the living shit out of him, got in his face and everything. Since then whenever someone said something I didn't ignor it like I used to - and - strange enough - I got a little respect, and those very same asswipes that spent their morning harassing me actually invited me to a grad party. I didn't go but it was strange to go from bullied to completely accepted in four years. My main advise is just not to take it. Stand up and say "What's your problem?" I know she's young but it causes alot of resentment to be built so if she could just tell them to shut up the fact that shes standing up for herself helps alot.
