anal i am a girl, 20, and while i have never participated in this act myself, i was always fascinated with the male obsession with anal, almost primal. a subconcious drive. psychologically speaking, where do you believe this fascination with anal comes from? what do you believe is behind this motivation, what makes your mind stray from the vagina to the ass hole? do you feel it is passively homoerotic? there are many answers ofcourse, i dont always get a chance to ask every guy i come across lol, and even then they might not share their true feelings on the matter. hell this post might not get ANY answers, im just curious what a bunch of guys have to say peace.
Anal sex is awesome for alot of reasons, mostly mental. Having never had anal sex before, I can't say my obsession with it is based on any experience I've ever had with it. Personally I'm an ass man. I love the look of a woman's round shapely butt. Just the sight of it turns me on. Thats one reason. Another reason, and one that I firmly believe, is that anal sex is so rare, that in itself makes the act extremely valuable in the eyes of alot of men. It is the uncommon practice of it that makes it so desirable. If anal sex was the norm, and vaginal was taboo, then we would want to have vaginal sex as much as we want to have anal now. Has nothing to do with homoerotic tendencies, at least not with me, as I only fantasize about anal with a woman. That's the best I can do, as I can only speak for myself.
i totally agree with zanarkand i haven't had sex either but thinking of going to a place that is not normally used is beautiful i love the shape of a curvy body on a female there is nothing more on a females body that can get me harder
I've never had anal, and my guy is anything but obsessed with anal. I honestly think the obsession comes from the fact that it is tighter, and also that there's some level of power or control that the guy feels when doing it.
Im impressed about the fact that "Mrs. H" thr girl of the posts is the one closest to the true. I can talk by my own experinece and conversations I have had with my best mate who is kind of obsessed with the anal sex act, and some other mates. Phisiclly talking of course is more tight what of course is more exiting, not always too confortable because there is no lubrication, but yes it feels good. Going beyond in the mind of the man, yes Mrs. H is right, there is a kind of power and control feeling, I think is more a social issue, the fact that its supposed when a girl decides to have anal sex with you is because she have given everything to you and thats lthe last thing she gives, is a kind of seal that brand that girl as yours, you have to work a lot, A LOT, the speaking and the convincing powers to lead her to have anal sex. So also its a kind of reward. Of course and I want to make a point here, THATS IS WHAT HAPPENS IN OUR MIND, not necessarily is the true for women, and never mean to be the last word. Would be really nice to know the point of view from a woman who have had anal sex. The truth is, girls always complains the first time, "hurts", "feels weird", "feels like poop going backwards", "you broke something in me" and so on. So dont expect to be a pleasant experience the first time, after a while girls like it and LIKE IT A LOT and more important WANT TO REPEAT, BELIEVE ME. So girls no matter what your motivation is, go ahead! seems like worth it.
I don't think that most guys have an "obsession with anal, almost primal. a subconcious drive." The fact that its a streachable hole about the diameter of a penis has crossed all our minds, but I don't think most guys are obsessed with it. There are plenty of guys who think that it's an exit.
I've never had an obsession, or even a desire, to do anal. Sliding my dick inside a nice slippery **** is quite enough for me. I like a blowjob too, but I'm not obsessed wiht it and wouldn't pressure a lady to blow me, but if she likes to do it, I'm all for it. Having said that, if a woman I was in a sexual relationship wanted me to do anal with her, I'd probably oblige.
Why do I like anal? I would be lying if the hole dirty thing wasn't part of it. A clean buthole is important, so I'm not gonan say I'm into poop or anything, but the fact that is is the darkest, dirtiest hole on her hole body that nothing is supposed to go into. The feeling of going in something that mildly hurts the girl is also part of it. It feels crude and barbaric: Animalistic. I've barely ever had "romantic" anal. It's just good dirty fun.
Nothing more far from true. Of course there is a lot of romance in anal sex, the thing is we are used to see anal sex in porno movies, but there is a lot of romance in a girl to give that part of her body! I think is not easy at least at the beggining should be not pleasant at all, so I think she resist for love. Isnt it! girls?
Dude, you are a poet. I never thought about it that way... It's just that my gf nd I don't get along with sex... it kind of makes me sad
Originally, the attraction for me was just to slip a finger into something while cunnilanguishing. Then tried it during intercourse. Two different women - two absolute votes of appreciation for "that extra thrill!" Made an early believer outta me. Also, let's give credit to the doing of something,"taboo," thus exciting. Does anal necessarily demand the insertion of a cock? Playing around gently back there seems (in my experience) to produce pleasure and excitement in women who appreciate the 'extra' attention. Never had a turn down of the fingers, usually leads to a more open discussion of what's going on, and seems to free her up to try a few of her own fantasies without fear of reproach. After all, a man who pokes her there is hardly a candidate for Puritanism 101! Just my happy views....
