there's a guy i like here at uni and it's been on my mind for soooo long. we're quite good friends and see each other most days. i'm 80% sure he likes me - he is not very experienced with girls and says he would never be able to tell a girl he liked her - i just feel that he flirts with me a lot and he definitely doesn't do this around other girls. anyway, i really need to say something to him before the vacation to sort it out with him. i feel that actually telling him how i feel would be the only way to make any progress, but at the same time i might scare him off? what do you think? i've been waiting for the perfect opportunity to tell him that i like him, and ive had some chances, but always bottle it at the last minute. i cant believe i am so lacking in confidence, i never thought i would be. anyway, i KNOW i have to face up to this, and sometime soon... But how do i make myself do it even though i'm so scared he will reject me? (i sound like such a loser, haha.)
I would say go for it. I was in your situation once about 10 years ago. I wasn't sure if my best friend felt the same way I did . One day he just blind sided me , ok well completely confused me to the point I was stareing at him like he was high and he leaned over and just kissed me. I was like what was that for ? He was like just checking. I told him not to check unless he ment it. We have now been together for 10 years and married for 4. We took a leap of faith and you see where it got us. So the leap is there you should take it yourself. If he does feel the same you'll know and if he doesn't just tell him you don't want it to affect your friend ship you just feel that close to him.
So you've got 2 choices here: 1. Don't tell him, and stay in this tense situation of trying to be friends with him even though you've got a huge crush on him, which rarely works out in the long run. 2. Tell him. There are 3 possible outcomes of telling him (as far as I can see): 1. He rejects you and it ruins your friendship. Well, at least you know what kind of person he is. 2. He's not interested, lets you down easy, and you're able to maintain your friendship, though you may be glad to be away from him over break, as that will give both of you time to get a little distance from the uncomfortable conversation. 3. He totally wants you and was just to scared to tell you himself. You start dating, and who knows where it goes from there. If he isn't interested but is a decent person, you'll be able to maintain a friendship, but actually have a more honest friendship without any tension about "does he like me?" If he's an ass about it, you're better off without him or his so-called "friendship" anyway. And, if you're right that he likes you, it will turn out great. What have you got to lose? ** And, no, you don't sound like a loser. Frankly, you sound like me for about a month before I finally got up the guts to say something to my now-fiance.
ask him out for coffee, hold his hand somewhere before/during/after coffee, see how he responds. Simple.
yeah just dont be too full on, put your hand on his and look into his eyes or something. i fancied my mate and just by looking at her in a certain way while resting my head on her chest she knew how i felt. we didnt get together but thts cos she lyks another of my best mates, he he
Sounds like he might be a lot like I used to be. If he is he'll probably appreciate you being forward. And more aggressive than girls usually are. You might even break him out of his shell And find him to be more open and confident about himself afterwards. Go for it.
