I hate guys who only think about sex.

I hate it when guys only think about sex. Does that not bother n-e body. Don't get me wrong I love sex but my ex bf dumped me b/c I wasn't fucking him in the first week. Would u guys do that to another guy if he didn't put out for u?

 

No.

This isn't just homosexuals, straight people will do the exact same thing.

 

Depends why he wasn't putting out, I guess.

 

Since I'm a gay Christian, I'd prefer to get to know my boyfriend before I'd be willing to take it any further. And I'd rather take some time to do it. I wouldn't be willing to just jump into sex after the first date. A relationship shouldn't be centered solely around sex, and sadly, there are some people, gay and straight who think otherwise.

To me, a relationship should be built around love and companionship. Sex is merely a way to further your love for someone. Unfortunately, some people prefer to have sex as often as possible and when they don't get it or tire of the person, they cast them aside like a piece of garbage.

 

It takes all kinds... as they say.

So, nope, do not go into hatred of any kind.

Just say, what you have to say... and do what you have to do.


SC

 

I would never dump a date because he didn't put out in the first week.
And I wouldn't call a dude I only knew for a week my bf.
And I wouldn't call a dude I never fucked my bf.

But it sounds like you lucked out. I'm thinking the guy wasn't that into you, otherwise he'd be sticking around. I mean you might be driving him crazy with lust, but if he was into you, he'd still be there. If he was like "the bed or the road." and you took the road, then he wasn't into you as a bf, but you were hot enough to boink.

He sounds like a jerk who only thinks for himself, and you probably picked up on that right away, which could explain why he wasn't into you.

I've had my share of one night stands and loveless sex. I like to kiss only on the first times I date a dude. I'll sleep with him, hands above the waste. If I like him -then jack off before blow job or anal which is after a couple weeks or a month. I guess I'm old fashioned. Or maybe just old?

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I like sex. I think about it alot. I guess you hate me. I think that if I am atracted to a guy, and he is atracted to me, we should get it on asap and as often as possible. If we then fall in love, that is great and our sex will go to the next level and have emotional meaning. If we don't fall in love then we can be freinds that share a fun phisical activity together. If a guy isn't hot enough for casual sex then he isn't hot enough period. Just my opinion, you guys can do as you will. I just can't stand it when people demonize sex.

 

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I agree, and I hope I didn't come off that way. But there is more to life than sex.

There's more to our relationships than sex, too. Listen, I've met a 'type' of gay man who relates to other men in one and only one way: sexually. He's unable to have a platonic, or nonsexual, relationship with men (except family I gather.) I've met straight men like that about women too, and Bi men who are like that about other men. I wouldn't call that attitude demonic, but shallow and sad.

And if you're satisfied and happy with casual sex, that's totally cool. It ain't a horrible thing; and I can't say it's a pitiful thing, either. We have free will, right?

My personal experience: I've had plenty of loveless sex. I'm not saying it's bad or good. It's like salt and sugar. You can only eat so much desert before you hanker for a steak. (or pretzel if you're vegan) I've had my desert (loveless sex). I mean, I might be hungry for it again, but for now I only have an appetite for love with sex, or at least the 'glimmer' of love.

Sometimes I feel like such an old man, by that I mean:

-I don't have time to fuck around.

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