Introduce yourself to my mom!

this is probably what i would say

or

thanks for leaving me, you probably made my life better in the long run

i wish my dad left me...

 

Recite some Shakespeare to her.

 

Subliminally cruel enough to get my vote!

I've not even see my dad for 22 years either, but here's the only picture I have of my mother..



I'll let the courts tag her I think.. :H

 

And she did.. Ok, in a way, I'm just as hard-skinned as I would have been living with somebody so emotionless, but I think I enjoyed my childhood better, and although not stronger mentally, I'm more settled than she could have provided me with..

 

This Thread is Creepy...

 

Right On! Thoroughly cool, groovey, far out, and exceedingly neato!
Genuine Artical: Hippy
sine cera

 

"You're pocket fell." And see if she looks down, but I like that "tag, you're it!" thing.

 

agreed, it kind of is... but maybe helping to work out some unresolved anger issues? hopefully mildly theraputic...

 

"Is it mother's day already?"

 

Lankymidget, your post here really wrenched my heart, and I sincerely would like to help you, so you need to understand that I am approaching this from a postion of caring; and I do not consider this a game.

In order for me to provide you with an answer to you question, "What is the VERY FIRST THING you say to her????", I first need some additional background information about your situation in order to provide you with what I think is the most appropriate thing to say to her. To do that, I need to ask you a few questions; here goes:

In line with your chronological references, it works out to you not having seen her since you were approximately one year old. In your second paragraph, you said, "... she never smiles, never gives out any affection, and never talks about herself." I respectfully ask you Lankymidget, if you have not seen her since you were only one year of age, where did you get this information about her tendencies? Was the source of this information a reliable source of information? As well, you say, "... I am 95% certain that she was responsible for me having "Severe Ricketts and Extreme Malnutrition" ... And broken bones, bruises, and a couple of cigarette burns, at the age of just 8 months." Since 8 months is too young for a human to recall, where did you get this information as well? You encapsulated the words "Severe Ricketts and Extreme Malnutrition" in quotation marks as if to indicate it was quoted from an actual written or spoken word - did you see this on a form of some sort, or did someone tell you this information?

The reason why I am asking you 'where you obtained this information' on both subjects is because if there's one thing I have learned by now in life, is that I will not just blindly believe somehting that's said to me about another person if the source of the information is not an extremely reliable one. And, for me to consisder it to be a reliable one requires that I have to have had previous experience with that person telling me information that
was proven to be accurate and true; more than once. In other words, I come full circle with it and with them. Then and only then, will I be inclined to believe something that they say about another person without seeing it, hearing it, or experiencing it myself. In conclusion, if you can say that whoever told you these things is indeed, a proven, tried & true, reliable source of information, then we know these things to be accurate information; and I'll give you advice accordingly.

What happened to you at the age of 8 months to one year of age? Were you put up for adoption; were you confiscated from the birthmother; were you put into the custody of relatives of your birthmother? Also, what is going on with your birth father? Have you been told who he is? What is his
position in all of this?

I hope I am not prying too much or causing you undue emotional pain by asking you these things; but I tell you again, I come from a position of caring; and when I give someone advice, I do so seriously; and it must be sound and accurate advice, or I won't give it. This confrontation with your birth mother is a serious thing in your life that you are about to undertake - it obviously has been bothering you for at least 31 or 32 years. You deserve to find resolution on this in your life so you can put it behind you and go forward and finally find some sort of enjoyment in your life. If you can answer my questions, then I will come back with what I think is the "Very First Thing" I think you could say to her.

Sincere Regards, Michaela
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"They will never make a perfect heart until they make one that
can't be broken."....... The Wizard, "The Wizard of Oz"
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Michaela, very true. There's a lot of anger obviously.... I don't think that making this into some sort of a game is funny, when there's obviously some serious negativity there... although we have managed to make light of it.

:ack:

 

Ok, Michaela and cerridwen..

I'm not going to quote your posts, but I have read them, and Michaela's twice..

I didn't want serious advice on this. My half-sister got in touch with me because of letters sent by a friend, a Minister's wife, she found written to my mother after I finally found out where she lived..

Any thought that this would be an end to over 20 years of inner turmoil were soon shattered when my half-sister (who I didn't even know existed until I located my mother) told me that my mother hides her past from everybody, including herself. Yes, I've harboured alot of anger during my childhood, and a little more since those letters were written 7 years ago..

Why did I turn into something so light-hearted? Besides not really wanted too many genuine helpful suggestions, I wanted to reduce the number of blatantly nasty ones that were sure to be posted.. But mostly, I wanted the humour.. Because one day, who knows, I met find myself on her doorstep needing to control 30 years of emotion, unable to find anything from my own repertoir to evaporate the tension that we would find ourselves with..

OK, I did let a little anger creep into this thread.. Those are always my first thoughts when I return my attention to her. I've learnt not to let any thoughts consume me by always finding a funny side to all my problems..

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So, to satisfy the need for you all to offer genuine support, I've become curious just how much experience of this situation there is within these forums.. The question is still the same, but indeed, please add your insight this time..