here is my issues. im a young woman who really didnt get to be a teenager and after i had aiden i was surounded by young woman and teenage girls wearing practicly nothing and i have been feeling inadaquate. i have been wanting to wear some revealing clothes but i know that it wouldnt look right on me being how as im pregnant again and all the stretch marks. i guess i just miss the days where i was able to wear short shorts and tiny tops. now that im a mom i just feel like that my own body isn't even mine anymore. im stil nursing aiden with another on the way. plus i feel like shane and i dont even have a relationship anymore its more of a he does his thing and i do my thing type of relationship. I feel like all i am is a robot doing the same things over and over and feeling the same way day after day. I want to start taking a class and working but i know that if i do shane will somehow make me feel guilty and then i wont want to take a class and work. i wish things were so much easier but i know that would be impossible. i just needed to rant thanks for listening
Aw, honey. ((((((((((FallenFairy)))))) You Do "own" your body. You have just, for now, chosen to share it with some people who, without you, could not survive, or thrive so well. It is such a short time that we share our bodies with our babies. I miss it, now. (I know, you don't want to hear that, you just want to take a bath ALONE!!!!) You know what you are doing is best for you and your babies. They will grow, faster than you think. I am sorry your partner and yourself are not getting along well. Perhaps that is the reason for your sadness. Blessings to you, sweet mama, you will be OK. Look into Aiden's eyes and you will KNOW the choices you are making, now, as a young womyn, will pay off and are paying off, even as we speak. :flowers: Flowers for a sad mama.
Congratulations on your BOTW!! I have a few stretch marks on my tummy, but I still show it off. If someone doesn't like the looks of me, they don't have to look. My little angel give them to me, and I don't see a reason to hide them. Yes, I get insecure about my body at times, but it's a beautiful thing. Preston assures me that I'm beautiful and he wouldn't change me for the world. We have a date night once a week, maybe twice....where we just go out for a few hours and spend time with each other. Just to make sure we don't lose the bond. Maybe you and Shane should try that. If you're able to find someone you trust to leave Aiden with for a few hours. And, don't let anyone make you feel guilty for taking a class and/or getting a job. I got a job....I just needed to do something, and, I need the money for Alexis. You'll be bettering yourself and it will give a, what sounds like, much needed break from your repetitive days. Love and luck.
Shane sucks. He should be making you feel gorgeous and sexy every single freakin day. He should be supportive of whatever it is you want to do, not ever making you feel bad about it. He's a selfish, abusive, controlling pig, and you would do much better with him out of your life. Of course, you don't want to hear that, and you'll probably be mad at me for saying it, but I just had to do it(again). This is YOUR life, go out and LIVE!! Don't sit at home being miserable because of what he's going to say about anything you do for yourself. It's up to you to be happy, nobody else can make you happy. If you are not happy with your current situation, change it. Yes, it really is that simple. It's not easy, but the solution is right there in front of you. Listen to that voice inside you, what is your heart saying you should do? ((((((hugs))))))
you just described my last year completely. Though I love being a mom, I felt like I was going insane. My body looked even shittier than it did before (always have had issues with it), Cody and I didn't do much else besides take care of Leane, sleep and he would be off to work, and I felt stir-crazy and greasy sitting at home. You have the right idea with getting out of the house. It helps a TON. I never got a chance to be a teen, either, just like you. Though being a mom was always what I wanted, it really made me realize that I should have listened to all the people around me saying, "don't be in such a rush to grow up." I love my life now, but once and a while that gets me down. What helped was getting a job. It was only 10 hours a week, but it was something in a different enviornment with different people to talk to. I felt like I was part of the world again instead of being stuck in a dark, dilapidated basemet all day. Now I'm in college with my hubby and it feels sooooo good. The cool thing is that I'm there with people JUST LIKE US! All young moms who had babies young and are wanting to get their lives inorder to make a better life for their little ones. I also found that it was very rewarding to myself to go back to work and then to school since I'm not so dependant on Cody now. It kinda made me feel like shit before to have him makin the money while I spent it. We have been having problems, too, and that was always one of the biggest ones. I have found that getting out and doing something helped me become a much better person and mother. I'm gaining a ton of confidence and am actually feeling better about my body, too. I HATE HATE HATE the fact that I'm not with Leane every day, but she's enjoying her dayhome soooooo much it actually shocked me. She's lovin this interaction with the other kids right now. I hate missing this time, but it's all better for us in the end. I know that your preggers right now, so it's hard for you to get a job or somethin, but try to sign up for a class or something. There's all kindsa prenatal exercise classes or craft classes. See what you can find, honestly, it will help a ton! (((((fallenfairy))))))
I think what you're feeling is normal. You're spouse may not know how to approach you because you are more sensitive about the way you feel you look. I have felt the same way at different periods in my life. I'm sure you are beautiful to your husband though. Men like a more mature woman's body... its softer.
