i'm a lesbian who has had a thing with her cuz

Lets start from beginning.

I first took him to the gay club when he was 19 and I told him I was lesbian and he saw me with girls and stuff. I got my first girlfriend and we have been together ever since.

He started making out with guys than told me he was gay and I was happy but then something happened and he said he wasn't gay and said he was just experimenting to see what it was like because I had done it. he seems to do a lot of things I do. Anyway for the next three years he saw girls and no guys and one night I have always sensed he has had an attraction to me but he is my cuz and i'm lesbian.

One night we kissed, I was well drunk and started kissing him, he didn't seem to mind and carried on and even asked me if I had turned straight and forgotton my girlfriend who at this point we had splited up so we were not together, the started to get all weird on me and kept looking at me and said he it was difficult and I went back to my girlfriend, he didn't speak to me for months and months. A few months ago we met up and he told me he was gay, I was happy and we never spoke of that night. We went out to a club and he told me was in love with a woman ( i thought god he is confused isn't he), than he hugged me, I said If I wasn't your cuz would you date me and stuff and he said stop embarrassing me, I laughed and he said maybe I would but he is still supposed to be gay. He always says to me I need a man to turn me etc but if he is so gay he should understand its not that easy to just turn.

I know its a long rant and stuff but he is freaking me out in many ways. One night I could feel him pressing against me and one time he out his hand on my bum and said it was so no one else looks at me. He doesn;t act like any of my other gay friends but he has got something gay about him and he does fancy guys and stuff I just wish I didn't get this feeling he likes me a bit more than he should.

Any advice guys?

 

It sounds to me like you're both interested in each other. A little honest and open communication should really help. Don't play games, don't beat around the bush, just tell him what you're feeling and what you think he is feeling.

I'm not saying you should start dating, you are still cousins after all. If you want to date then you won't hear any arguments from me, but you may have your own feelings against the idea. Even so you still need to sort stuff out with him.

As for him being gay, he isn't. Either you're gay or you're not. Just like there isn't any turning a gay guy straight, there isn't any turning a straight guy the other way.

Kelticman

 

Ever thought of the option that he's bisexual? Tadaa.. answer

And why he keeps on confusing you.. well.. probably he is attracted to you but only sexually, not romantically or anything.. just ask him!

Good luck!

 

Well, he is saying he is gay but he still freaks me out when he does certain things, its like he even talk about attractive women. I don't know very many gay men that do all these things.

 

Well.. maybe he has the feeling that he has to choose between men and women.. if you go to the 'gay forum' you'll find a thread where it's discussed.. bisexual people can have the feeling that they don't belong to either the gay or the straight community. It sounds like he's experimenting and still interested in both sexes so.. maybe a bisexual in the closet? Why don't you just talk to him about this?

I can recommend you posting this question in the gay forum as well.. my guess that you'll get more response there!