My first booty call...

I lost my virginity at 18 to the guy I later married. After four years of marriage, we're divorcing. He moved out a couple of weeks ago. We haven't had a decent sex life in over a year now and I have a lot of pent-up sexual energy. So I gave my friend a call. He's had the hots for me as long as we've known each other, and the attraction is definitely mutual. He's coming to visit this coming weekend, pretty much for the sole purpose of sex.

I feel slutty and empowered and turned on all at the same time...

 

you go girl!

 

Ditto.

 

yay and wootness

be careful of falling into a rebound relationship though.
you need to be independent, not DEpendent right now

 

Enjoy!

 

good for you!

 

I'm so glad I'm getting support here! I posted this on another board and all I got was "You'll get attached...blah,blah,blah...he's just a rebound guy...blah,blah,blah...bad idea...blah!" Sometimes sex between friends can be just that!

I'm seriously nervous, though! I think it will help if I list my insecurities, so here they are:

-It's been years (and a baby) since anyone but my husband has seen me naked. I'm totally insecure about my body and my baby flab.
-I won't be any good - he's been with a lot of people and I've only been with two (one guy, one girl).
-He likes marathon sex and I might not be able to go as long as he likes. I have a medical condition that makes sex painful (he knows about it and he's cool with it), so after a while, I may get too sore to continue. I do have lidocaine ointment to help some.

 

Nice! Hooray for booty calls. It's great that he understands that you get sore from sex sometimes and you haven't been with a lot of people.

And you'll be fine. If you convince yourself that you're "not going to be any good" you're going to be nervous and worry too much about what your friend's thinking. Don't. The best thing you two can do is talk. Ask him what he likes, have him ask you. Besides, you have to practice on someone! Hehe.

 

for the mans sake, i hope there are many more

 

I'm kinda confused as to why you want to so much, in spite of the pain...

 

Don't worry. You calling him and saying "I'm horney, come over." is so great a turn-on and compliment to him that he won't notice or be annoyed by any of your self-imagined defects.

 

just have fun and go BOINGY BOINGY BOING.

 

Yes, it hurts some, but I can still enjoy it. There are lots of stuff to do besides vaginal penetration. I still have a libido and sexual needs.

 

point taken

 

Have fun! Good call! (no pun intended)

 

Bad news. It ain't gonna happen. There was a big hooplah at his work (bunch of people got fired for stealing and slacking) and he has to work all weekend. I won't see him until the 14th of December. This SUCKS.

 

Time to get yourself an early xmas (sex) toy I think

 

I just got a new one a couple of weeks ago. I have two vibes and a clit stimulator now. Yay for vibes!

 

i could help you out over the phone if you want :beatnik2: