I love one.. but why do I date 2 ?

I love one... but why do I date 2?

 

because you want to break someone's heart?

Break up with one of them, date just the one you love, tell that person you want monogamy, just to date each other and no one else.
Unless they're ok with you dating more than just them. Do they knokw about each other?

 

because one isn't availible and accessible enough and you want to take your mind off of her? i do the same thing even though I know it's really shitty to do. I justify it by saying my intentions are good, I am just passing time yadda yadda yadda...
You need to let two go and be monogamous or else be honest with both of them and realize you're not ready to commit yet. I have done the later and it worked out quite well.
Good luck. You are not a bad person for cheating, we are animals but you need to either realize that and be honest or evolve into somone who can control your cheating by not doing it.

 

You date two because you don't truly love the one.

 

I think you date two because your afraid of being rejected by one...

 

Nice said. Thats you...

 

EXACTLY! If you really are in love with the one, you wouldn't be with another.

 

oh bullshit, ya'll have never heard of polyamoury? Think you can only love one person at a time? It's possibly to love a great many people all at once - maybe not for you but certainly for others.

I just think it's cowardly to not tell the two folks waht's going on, that's cheating or at the least really sketchy. Part of hte poly thing is to be totally honest and open about what's going on with everyone.

 

I don't think it's polyamory.


Have you been very hurt in the past, specifically recent past?

 

Well for one she said she only loved one. Secondly, when you are in love you don't continue to date others. The possible exception would be that they knew of each other and were ok with that. Since that is not the case then I stand by if she was in love with one she wouldn't still be dating the other.

 

I've been in love and went on a date with someone else. It was a poly relationship and he knew about it. Speaking in absolutes ("when you are in love you don't continue to date others") is just silliness and you know that. Very little in this world is absolute, particularly when it comes to relationships and human interaction.

We're reading in a whole lot for very little information that's been given to us.

 

i love about 6 , they all could be the one im with forever , but i chose one to have my children when i was younger , so i guess thats the one ill stick with , but of course you can love 2 people at the same time, i lose my mind when i see any of the other ones so i have to stay clear of them , big trouble otherwise i despise love because you have no control over what turns you on , some people just do

 

No, I just think people confuse love with lust and infatuation.

 

thats the main problem everyones different definition of love that discussion goes round and round