anal without pain???

Ive tried anal once with my boyfriend but it hurt sooooo bad that it didnt last more than a second... ive been to afraid to try it again, how do you do it without the horrible horrible pain?

any advice would be greatly appreciated.

 

Well... did you rush right into ass fucking without having first engaged in other forms of anal play? If so, that might be the problem. Getting used to the idea of something going into that hole is usually the best way to go about it at first. Try inserting small but well lubed things - like his fingers, a small sex toy, his tongue, whatever strikes your fancy - into your ass before you try taking something as big as his cock (I'll assume it's big anyway ; D )

If you've already experimented with lesser things being up there, then maybe you haven't done those activities for long enough for you to adjust to the feeling. Also... take a long, warm soaking bath beforehand... get into the mood for it... desire it. And use a ton of lube. If any of these things are missing, then the experience will likely hurt more than it has to (and having said that, it will hurt your first time - it always does - but, it won't continue to hurt if you do it right).

 

Anal? Painful? You must be kidding! It's fun! Just relax and get pleasure!

 

I agree, relax, use lube, and relax, it takes time to get used to having anal sex.

 

i think it was because it was lubed a little to much and slipped in to sudden, but i am willing to try again now. thanks for the advice.

 

anal without pain is like xmas without snow...

 

KY is key but that's obvious. One thing that hasn't been mentioned is to use your vibrator on your clit. It helps a lot from what I can tell. Also, have him put it in and then stop. Begin working the clit and then he can start moving about a centimeter at a time. Pretty soon he'll be knockin' the bottom out, literally.

 

salmon4me, you're wonerful. I'm totally going to use that.

 

Most of the posting I've read, Earth, are right on. A few things I can add that may have been said that I missed are; begin in a position where you control the speed and depth of penetration. That way you can go as slow - or as fast - as you're ready for. In addition to setting the mental mood, using a lot of lube, practice with anal toys yourself et. al., once he's inside you to where it's a bit uncomfortable, have him stop and you flex your muscles repeatedly, forgive me for saying this, but as if you're trying to hold back a poop. By doing this, the muscles will instinctively relax and it'll make penetration more easier - and pleaseable. After experiencing anal sex, good anal sex, and I trust I have support from the ladies here, you'll be able to control the relaxation of your muscles better back there - making initial penetration much easier. Keep in mind that the sphincter muscle is one of the few muscles in the body whose natural state is contracted.

TheBoss646

 

roflmao--I would say I'm dreaming of a white christmas--the line between momentary pain and great pleasure is blurred, then crossed, with anal sex--add a vibrator to the scenario--the initial few minutes of the penetration/pain is WELL WORTH the great climax--imho of course. I accept the pain when my dh pushes into my ass because I use my vibrator and I KNOW how great it is going to feel. sigh...sure wish he was home right now. sigh... sigh...

 

thought thats what KY & vasoline were made for...try it again but go slower at first till u get used to it

 

Don't attempt anal like you're a pornstar (unless you can handle it). It sounds like he's never done it before in his life because he should know he should lick, suck, play, finger and get you loosened up first with lots of lube (especially if it was your first time! ugh). Do NOT try the spitting stunt. Spit is not enough. Use a good lubricant. Nevermind, there's always next time.

If he's really hard and aroused, get him off and let him cum first. He'll be better able to focus on YOU afterward (in Round 2). Do NOT expect anything less, and never rush anal.

 

you mean you can't avoid it or you don't want to avoid it?

The part I prefer in anal sex is still he very begininng when I enter... but I think it's also the most painful part for the girl. Or is it also very exciting for you, ladies?

 

Well the pleasure is all mine...well not really butt you know what I mean

 

yeah ive tryed it 3 times.


hurts like a bitch eveerrrrrrrry time.

 

Has you ever heard of analeaze? It will numb it up a lil...but try working up to cock, start with a finger and then go up to a vib then try some cock.

 

There shouldn't be any pain. If there were pain, I wouldn't be enjoying anal. You have to learn how to relax your anal muscles. My best recommendation would be to practice on your own, to learn about your capabilities. I had to show my wife how easy it is. She used to wince when I put my pinky in her ass. When I showed her how to take a big dildo without blinking, she was amazed, then she used it on me.

 

Percocet and Coors Light.

 

someone must be doing it wrong

 

I just relax, and make sure I am lubed up. Takes a while to get used to.