Hey guys! so i was wondering if anyone here would like to share thier viewpoint on the causes of jealousy in relationships between men and women. i'm doing an essay for my literature class and i would love any speedy replies. They could be psychological or physical causes. thanks!
I am definately a jealous partner. I don't like when someone flirts with my boyfriend right in front of me. Also, I don't like if he even mentions an ex girlfriend or a story about them. Most of it deals with my own insecurities really because he gives me no reason to be jealous really.
I'm not a jealous person at all in relationships, in fact, it's quite the opposite.. I find jealousy to be a huge turnoff.
i'm curious as to how you're going to use the replies in this thread... surely you'd want to reference them and not plagerise them from others. but if you're going to reference them and not pass them off as your own...how much academical authority do the opinions of a group of strangers from an internet forum have? it's not a proper survey (not a random sampling, too small sample size). unless you're just looking for resources (i.e. "this physical aspect of a human causes jealousy") that you can go and look up yourself. but in thatcase, aren't you really asking us to do your research for you?
no i'm actually just asking people thier opinions. my teacher said its perfectly fine to use forums in the research process.
There is very little about jealousy that is posative. Jealousy can be a major destructive force in a relationship. It is far too easy to let it go from a being mildly jealous person, to one who becomes possesive and controlling to satisfy his/her own sense of insecuriety. Jealousy all too often, if left unchecked, can be the force that heads down the road to domestic violence. My opinion, from my expierience. ...your milage may vary
Ok well im a guy and me and my gf have been together for a small perido of time but i get pissed off when guys look @ her the wrong way i feel like knocking them out...i k now my gf is friendly as hell she loves meeting new people but it sometimes makes me a little uneasy but ill learn
It depends what it is. Like if you trust someone then there is no need to be jealous but you can learn your lovers little ways, like when it comes to flirting, if you go to a bar together and he's talking sweet talk to another girl as in maybe I might leave my current girlfriend for you or I'm just trying to be nice so I can have you on my good side because it's always nice to be liked by somebody. But then you look like a giant idiot listening in so it's hard to tell. That usually when the girl goes off and flirts with another guy and hopes that he will be watching so she can get back at him and this is were problems occur.
Or, it would be best if they just didn't sweet talk other people in the first place. Well, except in a playing kind of way.
I find that some jealousy can be a turn on depending on the level and if it's in a cute caring way and not the "crazy psycho".. The last guy I was talking to would try in any way possible to make me jealous.. If it didn't work he'd still insist I was jealous. He wanted to call his ex up and wish her a Happy Birthday, in hopes of me getting pissed/and or jealous.. He admitted later that he wanted to upset me a little.. My getting jealous would show him I wanted him and him only.. He once told me he wanted me to be aggressive, clingy and "rawr" (yes, he actually said rawr).. I encouraged him to call her because I thought it was nice and he still went on that he knew it made me mad.. That is annoying as hell.. He wanted me to be crazy jealous and I wasn't.. It turned into a big deal and he started this whole pity party where he'd say shit such as "well, I'm not going to call her because I know it upsets you" while I'd be sitting there cool as could be. The jealousy in our relationship was so bad that he would get angry for me posting here at HF.. He no longer posts here but I'm sure he's still watching me to see what I'm up to and if I'll be bad mouthing him.. I ditched all my online/offline friends for him and it wasn't good enough.. He even used my account here at HF numerous times.. He would read my incoming/outgoing PM's.. It became horrible.. Jealousy can definitely ruin a relationship.. If anyone gets as excited as he does by hurting their partner then I seriously wonder what is going on in that head of yours.
The biggest cause of jealousy? Insecurity. If you're secure about yourself, your partner and your relationship, then there's no need to be jealous.
I just went through a little crisis in an open relationship I have with a 7-year friend of mine. I thought she had fucked someone over the weekend without telling me about it, which turned out to be false. She would have told me because I told her about my exploits before. I realized that the jealousy I was feeling had everything to do with lack of communication and emotional availability, and not the physical act. I was previously unsure whether I could even handle an open relationship. Now I'm just a wee bit more confident that I can so long as I'm on the same page as my partner. But time will tell...
Jealousy and insecurity sucks. Right now I know that i have a huge problem with jealousy and my insecurities..its a hard thing to deal with and has damaged my relationship with my gf for months...the thing is that our relationship is long distance, which has made extremely harder to overcome these problems without seeing her so often but i also believe it has made our relationship stronger in a certain perspective... We are getting an apartment together in about a month and 1/2. This brings so much reliefe just because i know i wont be overcoming these problems by myself, that, and i will be so much happier. Just sharing my experience with you guys.
