aright, so I'm feeling a little frustrated with my relationship right now. We've only been dating for 3 weeks so we're still pretty new to each other... To start off, I have three basic requirements for me to really want to date someone: an emotional, intellectual and sexual connection. I keep on finding only 2/3 of what I need with guys though, one is always lacking. With this guy, it feels like the emotional connection isn't there. When we talk on the phone (he lives on the other side of the city, neither of us drive so we only get to see each other once a week or so, hence the phoning often), the conversation is pretty much all about him. I'll say something about my day, there's a pause, then an "ok so I..." type topic change. And it's all those stupid guy stories, which are amusing in moderation but I can only hear about how you kicked some guy in the balls for so long. So I feel like I'm not really paying attention to him either, that our communication seems really blocked, neither of us seem to listen to the other terribly well. *sigh* I really want it to work out with him, I really do like him.... I'm just not sure if I want to date him :/
Somehow many men are like that, specially if he is the ensuthiastic type, it is not necessary a communication problem, it could be he is trying to be interesting from his point of view, and that he is happy with your phone call. In good time, you can mention to him to listen to you more, usually it works, he thinks he is doing the right thing, and keeping the call frm being boring.
Kick it to the curb. Contrary to the sex god, Meatloaf, two out of three is bad. Come on. You can do better than that. If you can't think with him, fuck him and omm with him, he's as good as gone.
Hahahah.... I've been contemplating the using him sort of like a fuckbuddy for a while, seeing how things pan out but not letting myself feel as attached as I do when I'm in a gf/bf situation... we'll see how it all goes tonight (he's coming over and spending the night)
It should be instinct to ask questions. I would never date someone who talks about themselves all the time and never questions how I am, how my day was, ask about my opinions, ect. sounds self absorbed. You deserve someone who will take an interest in you. edit: you mention emotional but use a phone convo as an example so it sounds like a mental problem to me.
I'll have to agree with Subgoin, maybe he is not realizing that he's being boring or that he's not giving you the right amount of attention. Maybe you should be his fuck buddy and that's all. Your decision. Meatloaf?? huh?? The sex god is Aphrodite, and it's a she, so that would make it sex godess. And Ares was (still is to me...) the god of war, who casually fucked Aphrodite but got busted by Aphrodite's husband (the god of Blacksmiths, ugly fellow) and eventually got traped in a copper net built by the angry husband. Just saying... Is Subgoin really 96?? hehe.
Hahaa, he turns me on like no one has... and when I'm around him, face to face, I don't feel like this at all, it feels like he's actually paying attention to me. It's just on the phone that that connectivity doesn't seem to be there. Mf, I'll see how it goes with time, not let myself fall to hard for him in the meantime Oh, and thanks for being the only one who got the reference I've been listening to bat out of hell II soooo much lately lol (yes I know it's I that has two out of three ain't bad, but I don't have a copy of anymore )
Sounds like a strong attraction. You never know - perhaps it is just chemical and the other things will catch up. I know what you mean about two out of three though... or not all being met. This has been the case with all the men I've dated except one. What is "Mf" ? Did you just call me mothaf****? I nearly peed on myself. Sometimes people say "two out of three" because it's a popular reference. Who said I liked Meatloaf? :uhoh2: ok, I admit I have Bat Out of Hell I and II.
I got the reference right away. Although I have neither album. (For the record, I love you two ladies. arty: ) PS: Good luck, ihmurria. Maybe your fuckbuddy is just awkward on the telephone ... I think it's a guy thing.
