Hey I'm 14 but I started talking online to this guy that's 21 . Well we started flirting mean @ first I was a little freaked out aobut things he said but then it grew comforting and I started getting feelings for him then we started talking on the phone and then one night we were talking and I was asking y we couldn't go out well he finanly caved and said "Would you like to go out with me". Of course I said yes but . He was like I'm gonna give u a chance. The next day I called and was like hey and we started talking like normal and then I brought the subject up of us going out and he said he didn't say that and that I missunderstood but I know he did but he said we can't go out b/c you're a teen and ur gonna have so many more relationships and that I would mean nothing to him a few years from now and also that we lived too far away but btw he dated a teen from Canada and he lives in Iowa,United States. So then my world came down and I always try to tell him how I feel but I tell him too much and he said if I keep bringin it up we would stop talking all together. And I need to express this emotion so bad so what do I do? I need help thanx.
Ok...This is hard , the mother in me has to say that you need to leave him alone , you are 14 and hea is an adult , and I dont care that he dated a teen before , that was wrong. If you really feel something for him , then it will still be there when you are older !
yeah, man, I dated a 20year old when I was 15, and I dont regret it, and if anyone was dominant or in control in the relationship, it was me, but it just wasnt good for me. cuz he lives in Germany and i live in the US...well NOW for a year im in Germany but thats besides the point. and i became so dependent on him for happiness and made him to be some sort of god or something, he really meant so much to me, but not for much of any reason. it was a bunch of feelings that made me want him, but all of them werent good feelings to be drwaing me to him, I mean, I defintiely loved him, but I dunno. My point is: he seems really increidble and important now, and like you couldnt even life without him, and it almost freaks me out that Im repeating the same thing that I was told after my 20year old boyfriend left back for Germany, but its true: he wont seem so crazy good in time. i know your love for someone never really DIES, but it does change to more of a well-wishing love, and a friendly love, instead of the obsession it can become when the love isnt returned to you. and plus, 21 and 14 a 2 year bigger gap than a 15 and 20 year old dating (i was almost 16, so it was 4 years difference, still a good difference, but not so much). Chill out, and try to be realistic about your feelings for him, and really reflect on how mcuh you really know about him, and how things wouldnt go too well if you dated, it really wouldnt, Im not trying to be a downer, Im trying to let you know something before you have to painfully figure it out, but I dunno. im sorry, I know it hurts, and I was really upest for a while about my boyfriend, but now I realize it was more of an obsessoin,and that I barely knew him,and 2.) he wasnt even that good of someone for me. good luck dylan
I know you probably like him a lot, however, he is a creep. It's not right for someone his age to engage in any sort of sexual/romantic relationship with someone your age.
'Normal' is just what the majority of society creates to make itself feel better about it's own insecurities, and thus for better or for worse, this same sense of 'normal' is bred into the next generation...
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It's not uber uber uber wrong, but if a 21 year old has much in common with a 14 year old then that's pretty tragic. I mean, no offence to 14 year olds, but if the seven most active and important years of his life hven't changed his outlook, I don't know if he'd even be worth pursuing.
