Do you ever look in the mirror and think...

''wow how ugly am i?'' because I do a lot, i'm an 18 year old guy and have never been in a serious relationship with a girl, I think this has made me paranoid over my looks, I don't know. Sometimes I look at myself and my body language in the mirror and get really frustrated over how I look, I have a big head, fat face/mouth and blotches/spots on my skin which dont seem to damn well go away. Honestly sometimes I feel like pushing my head through a glass window its that frustrating, and makes me feel like I don't even deserve a girlfriend. Guess I will have to learn to live with it, I know people say its not all about looks but it is still annoying. Sometimes I even look different say like in the morning compared to the evening, I dont know if thats just me. I know most people would say its self confidence, but there is a fine line between that and to judge if you are simply good looking or not.

 

well man i go through that every day i look in the mirror and dont like what i see but i learned to stop putting myself down and started to look at the good. cuz negative thoughts just make it that much more worse and if you keep saying to yourself day in and day out all these negative things your subconcious will get all the negative thing programmed into your brain and everything you say will most likely be come true. so all i am trying to tell you is to not look for your flaws but to look for the things you like about your self like you have a nice smile or your eyes are pretty. and after awhile you will notice a difference in how you look at yourself and hwo you feel. to better explain what i was telling oyu about you should rent the movie "what the bleep do we know" down the rabbit hole this movie will explain to you the power of thought andgive you a whole new perspective on life itself.

 

Frankly, you can try reading the news and keeping abreast of afflictions that are disfiguring children, people far younger than yourself. And stop being so petty or self-absorbed.

Go do something to help others, get out and maybe you'll see how much more suffering people are going through. Hey, maybe some people don't give a shit but travel sure has opened my eyes. You can start by reading the news.

 

Just grab a can of spraypaint and unload the whole thing on all your mirrors. Problem solved.

Stop obsessing over your looks, and just be yourself. Personality is so much more important that looks anyway.

And for the record, I'm 18 too and I've never been in a serious relationship either. I have yet to start caring about that fact

 

Yup same thing, I hate how my body looks I absolutely HATE it. I'm not going to sit hear and lie saying that sometimes...I do like the way i look... I dont think im that ugly. But I just sometimes wonder why I feel so ugly. I feel fat everyday of my life, and sometimes its to much to bare...I find best way for me is to just not think about it...like push it to the back of my mind...I have become very good at that... recently. I can tell you now actually thinking about it... my ex used to tell me how fat my legs where... maybe thats why I dunno.

But I do believe this....that you have to look in the mirror and love who you are first before you can expect to love anyone else. I firmly believe in that... but thats just my opinion.

I will say tho, that personality is way more important. Although your sick of hearing it. And in that aspect I love who I am

 

most people aren't 100% happy with their physical appearance. I know I'm not.

But, when it comes to dating, as long as I don't find the person genuinely unattractive, it's the personality that matters. There are very few people who I wouldn't date because of their looks, and fewer yet who I would date just for looks.

Stop worrying about shit you can't change and focus on loving yourself, on being a better person - someone who is confident and likes themselves for who they are is a shitload more attractive than someone who stares into the mirror and hates everythign they see.

 

Sure.....I have never thought myself to be pretty at all.....in fact , I think Im verry plain.......and I never dated.

 

Worrying about how you look is a very chickish thing to do.

Girls don't like chickish things.

So stop.

 

We all have those times, some sore so than others..... i know how you feel but everyone also has those days where you're like................. "god DAMN im hot!" man just be who you are...... as for the relationship thing...... I'm 18 and havent had a relationship over 2 months...... dont worry about it someday the right person'll come along...... stop stressin over it..... if you love you for you others will too

 

everyone hate something about their body, for a long time for me it was my nose but now its the top of my legs. i always thought i was pritty ugly & not one of those really pritty girls that get all the guys. but i realised those really pritty girls hate things about their body too but cover it up with confidence.

my fiance thought he was ugly but i think he is absolutley gorgeous, to some people he may very well be ugly & too others he my be the most gorgeous person they have ever seen. i may apear dam right ugly to some but stunningly beautiful to others. its all about what people find attractive, if we all liked the same features on people then we might as well all look the same & have no individuality about us.

the reason you think you are ugly is because the meadia shoves this image of what beautiful should be down peoples throats. people think it only affects girls, they should be tall, ultra stick thin, hair & face immaculate but its the same for blokes. you see all these images all the time of what beautifull should be, models & the like. you need to stop looking at those images so literally, those images are tampered with on computers, airbrused to take away all the "imperfections", no one is ever like that is real life, only on paper or on film.

 

I like the way I look. I really do. And Im glad I dont have problem like this.

 

I like the way i look too, and i think you shouldn't care about relationships yet, look, i'm 19 and never had a girlfriend, i know how you feel.
Hannah, i think you're being a bit too harsh on the lad, relax. What's wrong about being ambicious, wanting more in life? More financial security, more self confidence, a relationship...
Luckily for me, i've reached finally the phase in my life where i like myself.
Couldn't agree more with torz, nice body btw .

 

im just happy that i look alright now becuse usually though aging it just gets worse

 

I'm not handsome my self, in your age used to worry a little about it for the same reason (70% youngmen do), but after one year or less got to know a girl and we had a relation that was the envy of the place.

Things that appear on the skin in young age will go away but not in a very young age like you, it is just a sign that your hormones are ok. To be sure you can visit a Dr., or wait till you are 20 or someting.

Going to the Gym. regulary, helped me also to have an added value, because there are many girls who care more about the body than the face (do not be Mr. bodybuilding), and in long good relation, it is personality what counts.

dressing is important of course, clean, little perfumes, feeling and radiating happiness/confidnce helps also (can pretend a little), some will love you just because of the life force that comes out of you.

Oh yeaaah - and girls love fun & affection & care, well most of them.

Sports plays a good role, and should not be forgotton, it adds also a kind of freshness and relaxation.

 

i do that, though it varies from time to time what i think.