why do "nice guys"

...finish last"?
yeah, so ladies, gals etc
why does a nice guy put you off from getting into a relationship with them?
just wondering, lol
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Someone said nice guys finish last, because they're nice. Girls want sex too, and mean guy's usually are dicks, and have had sex with 20 different girls. They know just what to do. While the nice guy just stands around not knowing what to do, or just being nice.

I hate this world..

 

I find it convenient.

 

I think you may be confusing nice with dumb. A lot of dumb guys appear nice and girls can sense they are not so smart so that's why they finish last.
There's a difference between being a nice guy and being so stupid that you know no other way in life but to be nice.

 

It's not that all nice guys finish last...The nice guy that has the balls to make a move is a dream and probably a future husband, but the nice guy doing nothing will get nothing. I personally don't like "bad boys", too much drama.

 

i think last time this came up the main point was to distinguish between "nice" and "spineless." cn283 made basically the same point, a nice guy who can make a move won't "finish last," but since most "nice guys" will do nothing, they will "finish last."

 

exactly.
if a guy doesn't treat me with respect, ie "be nice", he's toast. But same if he's spineless, that's -such- a turn off for me

 

How much do you want him/her?

Niceness has little to do with anything. IMO, "nice guys" lack balls or conviction, stubbornness or a will to get me. I don't even play hard to get.

But I will fart on you if I don't like you.

 

nice guys typically don't have as much practice/don't know the right ways to go about things, and ar ein many cases absolutely terrified to make the move
girls like nice guys, but they dislike working more

 

When I've made a conscious decision to not date the nice guy, it was because I was not mentally ready for a relationship (still getting over a breakup), but wanted the physical closeness and sex. So I used a womanizer instead of risking hurting someone who might actually care about me.

The rest of the time, it really is all about having a spine. My fiance is a nice guy. All of the good things you can say about a nice guy would describe him. But he's also an asshole, specifically when it comes to standing up for people he cares about. He's not some spineless guy who's going to just sit there and wait for me to tell him what to do. He is my equal, not a doormat. I wouldn't settle for less in a relationship.

And, as has been mentioned above, too many clueless guys confuse being a nice guy with being a doormat, which is a complete turn off.

 

god I know what you mean...men are freaking drama queens in general, with their stupid games...no worries I forfeit every time and walk outta your life...after thinking I had cancer last year I just don't have the patience for that kinda immature,manipulative, insecure and carless behavior anymore...I'm so over it.

 

You honestly believe it is Men that are the drama queens in the world?

 

completley. Guys go stir crazy when you don't produce drama and they push you and push you trying to create some.

 

if i ever met a "nice guy" that liked me back not only would i date him, id fucken marry him.

i attract the wrong type of men. all i ever wanted was a nice guy.

 

oh i totally agree. there is a fine line between being a nice guy, being a complete puss, and being stupid.

by "nice guy" i mean a guy that is respectful and and responsible & has enough balls to step up.

 

what type of cake should we have?

 

It happens... it also happens to females too. That's how shit happened with me. I always got with assholes... the guy I'm with now went through the same kinda shit... eventually we got together and its' great! We both undersand bad relaionships and it just makes you appreciate good people that much more.

 

I personally have a weakness for bad boys.

 

Confidence is everything. If someone is sure of themselves they won't be finishing last when it comes to women.

 

I think the key is to be a nice guy but have that extra edge or dangerous part too.
A guy who is sensitive but not a pussy.
To be in BALANCE with The Female and Male energies.
We all have a Female and Male side to whom we are and when any gender puts down another all they are doing is DISHONORING that part of themselves. I was in the mall and over heard this woman saying that ALL Men are Ass Holes. I pointed out to her that she just dishonored the Male part of whom she is and so do Men when they put down Women. Until everyone figures out that what we need to do is be in BALANCE of our Male and Female. Relationships will just keep on floundering the way they have all along.