age & homosexuality.

do you think age has anything to do with realization of being anything other than straight?
on one hand, yes, there is much confusion being a teenager as is, and things only get more complicated when you wonder why you feel the way you do about people society believes you're not supposed to.
and on the other, are we not on a quest to find ourselves at that age, and wanting to examine every possible angle?
being young, ive been accused of identifying myself as bisexual because it's 'the hip thing to do'.
is it? do people really do this? i mean, i can see where they might get this due to my age, but i personally dont know of anyone who considers being anything other than straight 'hip'.
it took me a year of wondering why i was so jealous when my female friend was dating him. but i figured it out.

maybe its more about mentality and maturity as far as realizing you're gay, or coming out, goes.

idk.. what ages were all of you when you realized.. and how long did it take for you to come out?

 

No.....many of us know before we are even teens that we are different somehow. I knew when I was 12.....but didnt fully come out till I was 13.....then , had my first real girlfriend when i was 14.

 

I liked boys when I was five years old.

I didn't realize I was any different until maybe 4th or 5th grade.

It wasn't something that just hit me, but that doesn't mean it's not like that for others.

 

i knew i was different as about 11 or 12. as i became a teen, i came to terms with my sexuality.

 

I remember having crushes on guys in 1st-gradeish times...I wouldn't refer to them as those but they certainly were. As a kid, what I wanted always seemed to mirror what people wanted me to want...my family and friends wanted me to be attracted to women, and so in a way I guess I kinda was...? But it never could keep me from wanting guys.

 

i knew i liked other boys when i was 5 or 6, i didnt realize that what i felt was different til i was like 9 or 10, wen i did find this out i refused to accept it, i didnt accept it til a lil bit after i turned 16...

 

I dint addmit to myself till I was whadya know 13 and now I realize wow Im really am gay and yea its not that you dont, know its that when you addmit to yourself that your gay.

 

I knew i was different by the time I was 11 or 12, but I didn't come to terms with it until 2 years ago, and I didn't come out until earlier this year

 

I knew when I was about 5, because I wanted to grow up and marry a man and not a woman. I was two spirited at that age, too. I didn't accept it untill I came out at 19.

 

Maturity and homosexuality are far from connected. Trust me.

 

I was aware of being attracted to other guys as young as 10. However, I don't think that necessarily means the same thing as realizing that you're gay. After I read about homosexuality a year or two later, I was able to make the connection.

At the same time, there are lots of people who assume it's a stage or deny it for a variety of reasons.

 

i guess that was sort of like me.. i figured all girls looked at other girls the way i did. you know, like "all girls notice when other girls are attractive". but the more and more i thought about it the more and more i wondered if maybe i was thinking a little to hard into how these girls looked.
then i developed feelings for a good friends and i was like "whaat?!" lol.

i figured it out when i saw i could see myself with a girl, and liked it.

 

i realized that i was bi-sexual when i was 10 years old. but i dodnt admit it til i was 17 years old and i feel like my younger years were waisted living a lie... it doesnt have anything to do with maturity it just has to do with the environment that you are in.. me personally: my family is completely against it and they make it know.. they make gaging noises when they see a gay couple..im 18 now and my family still thinks im straight as a board...... and yea it was considered "hip" for ppl to be gay. it had to do with rebeling and just doing something to talk about basically..

 

Kids are coming out at younger ages than before because our society us more accepting of the homosexual community and kids in general are developing sexually at a much younger age. This doesn't mean that people are realizing they are gay sooner, it just means people are able to realize their feelings and feel comfortable expressing them a lot earlier than in a time like the 50's where homosexuality and non-hetero thoughts were shunned and repressed.

 

Do you think that's necessarily a good thing though? Committing yourself to something like that at such a young age, I mean.

 

I view it as the same commitment made when girls start liking boys and boys start liking girls. Just another step in growing up. It's just a realization and understanding of who and what you want, not a life-sentence.