Does your family know that you are gay?

You sound just like my mom, and she's a darn great mom if I do say so myself.

 

My mom knows I like chicks, but not the specifics. She's not nosey, though, and she would NEVER judge me. She never gets nosey about any of my relationships. My dad I have never discussed it with- we get along beautifully but I never discuss any of my private life issues with him. He would never ask. They respect me tons and I respect them tons for it!

 

i begun the coming out process as a teen. let me backtrack a bit. when i was 17 my parents suspected that i "might" be gay. both of my parents were fairly conservative. my mother was a nurse. therefore, my mother sent me to a psychologist to "cure" me. my parents rational was that i was sexually confused.

fortunately, i ended up with an open minded doctor. she saw homosexuality as a sexual orientation on equal footing as the hetro lifestyle. after a few sessions she helped me come to terms with my sexuality. she did not disclose anything to my parents. she told them that i was fine.

at 18 as a college freshman i came out. it was an ugly situation at first. rejection, anger, threats, all of that horrible shit. fortunately i was attending college away from home. therefore i had a place to run to . i returned to school and had no contact with my parents for about 1.5-2 months. eventually my mother came around at the end of the semester about 3 months after i came out. she admitted her mistakes and we repaired our relationship.

however, my father and i had a strained relationship until i was in my mid 20's or so. even after we reconciled, it was an issue we did not discuss. if i brought lovers or friends around, he was polite. however, he never made a effort of getting to know those in my life.

i was never really close to my extended family however, i was always out to them. i always brought my friends and partners with me on the rare occasions i attended an extended family gathering.

 

erzebet, you are an absolutely rocking woman. you are a true parent. you epitomize the true defination of a good parent "love unconditionally". {hugs} :angel: :Angel:

 

yes, my immediate family knows. they're all okay with it.

 

^^good for you baby.

 

My parents know, but they found out in a way I wish they wouldn't have. My brother knows and one of my cousins. But I told them both I was bisexual, so it was fine. I'll never tell my dad's side of the family. My cousins, perhaps, but not the others. My favourite aunt might know through my mum, which I don't mind. But for the most part, I'm not really comfortable telling most of my family.

I feel terrible for people who can't tell their own parents. Unfortunately, sexuality can get in the way of people accepting and loving their children.

 

All of my family knows. Kind of awkward at first, but there was no conflict.

 

all of my family knows and they let me express myself openly too. im pretty lucky to have such a family.

 

My immediate family knows and my sister says that my relatives gossip so much that the rest of them probably know too.
I thought it would be fun to tell my parents in the form of:

Dad: "So what are you doing today, Jon?"

Me: "Whelp, that’s a good question. More or less, umm, going on a date."

Mom: "Wohoo" she says with as bit of enthusiasm as this hasn’t happened before.

Dad: "With who?"

Me: "Umm, his name is Nathan. ... He goes to Miami [University]. That’s where I was Thursday."

mom is confused

Mom: "What? ... I don’t get it. You’re going to Miami?"

Me: "Yeah, but that’s not the important part of this conversation."

Mom: "What’s the important part?"

Dad: "That he’s going on a date with a Nathan."

Mom: "Oh... Ok."

Me: "k?"

They sounded confused and unnerved.

I slowly ate my cereal and they slowly asked questions and I answered them as best I could. Dad eventually stated that he loved me, was disappointed, and felt that he was responsible. I was disappointed with how it went at the time and we didn't talk about it for 2 or 3 months and then suddenly they're asking me about my personal life so all was well in the end.

Now they know my boyfriend and he is always more than welcome. He's coming for Christmas! He has a stocking on our mantle and my Easter basket always has candy for both him and I.

Look- Two of everything!

 

Nope my parents don't know... yet. i know for a fact theyd be cool with it, weve talked about gays and all that stuff and they accept it just fine, i dunno why i havent told them yet though, guess im still a lil nervous of teh initial reaction, itll be awkward lol but nothing bad.

the only one in my family that currently knows is my cousin, shes completely cool with it, shes happy that i told her, and its good that i have someone to talk to about it.

 

i was half-way outed by my little brother's girlfriend while she was on the phone with my brother.
this is what happened:

we're all sitting in my living room. dad's on the computer, tyler (little bro) on the phone, me watching tv.
she (the brohans gf) asked him if it was true i was bisexual (this is on the phone, mind you.)
he (brohan) decides to yell out "asia!? you're bi!!?"
me: whaat?
the brohan starts spouting off about how 'he knew it' 'MY SISTER IS A DYKE'. (all in a joking way, if you can imagine that..)
and the entire time this is going on and im yelling at him to shut up, my dad is sitting on the computer shaking his head and you can tell he's just trying to to hear.

and and once i told him i got asked out on a date with a girl (which was true, i wanted to see how he felt about lesbians in the first place) and he was like "wow.. so you're going?"
and i was like "yep."
and he's like "but just as friends." (no.. i didn't accidently forget the question mark.)
me: i dont actually know.
him: (dead silent)

they'll realize when i bring a fem home.
;p

 

Damn that's a shitty situation. I hope it works out...