ok, so it goes like this. in the middle of august i spent the night at my girlfriend's house, we were going out for about 4 months at that point. in the morning her sister walked in on us on her bed and she said she'd let her get away with it and it seemed like she didnt make a big deal. i left and from what she told me she called her mom and told her herself because if she didn't her sister was going to. but anyway i wasnt able to talk to her for a while since that day. my mom and her parents are best friends so she knows everything that goes on over there, and she told me that they almost sent her to the doctors' to check for her virginity, they took down her door, took away her cell phone, gave her a babysitter, she can't go anywhere without adult supervision, and all that great bullshit. her original myspace account gets deleted and then she made a new one and i asked her about everything and she told me that she got grounded for a long ass time, they didnt tell her how long. but her best friend moved to japan at the end of september and they wouldnt let her visit her or anything. but the last time i talked to her was the first week of september, and that was just on myspace. basically the last things we talked about is our relationship and at first she didn't know if it would work out cause of her parents, but she wanted to wait and see what happens. that was on september 8th. all of the sudden her myspace account got deleted and i havnt had any way to talk to her since. now i have no idea what the flying fuck is going on. but this dude at my school asked me if i had sex with her and i said yeah why and he said "nice dude shes so hott i have her alone to myself every saturday cause she babysits my little brothers i'm gonna try and hook up with her". at that point i wanted to sock him in the face, but it probly woulda just bit me in the ass with my luck. i told him that she was grounded for a really long ass time and he said she wasnt anymore. but i've been trying to call her for a while between the months, and i dont know if she ever got a new cell phone or got it back or what, cause the # i have might be the old one. i thought about it and i figured that shes been babysitting that house for like 5 months and if she wanted to hook up with him she would have by now...so..i have no idea what shes trying to do. i dont know, i just dont even know what to do or think anymore. the love we had was real, i know that sounds like a stupid thing cause i'm only about 16, but there was just something about this relationship that all my other ones couldnt compare to. it was fucking amazing. and every time i think of her parents just taking the most amazing thing in my life away from me pisses me off. i dunno if i should just forget about it and move on, or wait...or if she moved on or whatever, i have no way of knowing besides talking to that douchebag thats tryin to hook up with her, and i dont really wanna do that cause i just cant stand talking to him and he'd probly just lie his ass off. hes one of those guys thats really full of himself for no reason. but yeah, umm...help?
I don't think you should take that guys word for it cause he could just be making a whole load of shit up. I guess all you can do is wait to talk to her and hear what she has to say. Thats the only way you'll get the truth and really know what's going on. Maybe think of some other way to get in contact with her, if that's possible. It's a real sucky situation, and her parents sound psychotic! Who the hell does that to their child!? I hope it all works out for you!
I'm really sorry for you. Her parents are fucking CRAZY. Just try to talk to her, i don't know, intercept her somewhere, she can't be under adult supervision ALL THE TIME right? Good luck, i mean it. FIGHT as much as you can.
You didn't say how old your girl was - if she was too young, that might be why her parents were upset. If all you did was make out on the bed, what is the problem. If you were caught having unprotected intercourse, that is a different thing. Be a little more specific about what happened - you are obviously upset and rambling a little.
These things have a way of relaxing. Just give it a little bit of time. You don't see her at school or around anywhere? Where did you meet her?
she turned 15 on september 20th (what a great birthday present...). so just a year difference, not too much of a big deal. we weren't even doing anything when her sister walked in on us, we were just laying on her bed. and i met her on a camping trip because her parents and my parents are best friends pretty much so we go..er did go camping alot. she goes to a different school so i can't see her there. it seems that her mom dosn't want to accept the fact that shes growing up and she wont let her really date til shes 16, even though she caught us making out once. but when i talked to her on myspace she said her mom put all of that on her and her step dad was on her side but he doesn't realy have control of her like her mom does. she told me that her parents don't want her to have anything to do with me...i have their house # though so maybe i'll just call from a different phone at 3 and i think she'd be home by then and no one else would cause her parents are still working by then. but if that doesn't work then the only thing i could think of is talking to that kid and telling him to have her call me on saturday...or just show up at his house while shes there... at this point i'm just really tired of waiting. but shes more than worth it. its just fucked up that her parents fucked up our relationship and took her away from everything. everybody's told me the same thing, just wait, let things work themselves out; or call the house phone. it just seems so fucking hopeless.
It's not hopeless! Just call her house phone...do whatever you can to get in contact with her. If she really is worth it like you say she is then nothing should stop you from trying.
The only other option is to try and win over the parents. It can be effective. Call the mom and tell her that you care for her daughter(don't say love) but you respect their decisions as parents. Ask if it would be alright if you could date her when she reaches their acceptable age in 9 months. They may just think you are mature enough that they will relax. It maybe worth a shot, it never hurts to look like you are considering their feelings.
KICK THE MOTHER F@#%ING DOOR DOWN, ride through the doorway on your white stallion and shining armor (sword waving) storm the castle, rescue the princess and ride out towards the sunset ya.....that sounds about perfect..... just try not to wake her parents up.....lol
Sounds like her parents are very strict and don't want their daughter to have any(even very mild) sexual contact with the opposite sex until she is older. It is not about you, but about her and her parents. All of us guys have had similar experiences, believe me.
Wow. Sounds like her parents want a couple of grandkids before she is 20. That is the most ridiculous overreaction I've heard in a long time. FYI, to my knowlede there is no way to definitely determine virginity. They can check to see whether her hymen is intact, but that can be broken by strenuous activities like horseback riding or bicycling. I would let the relationship go. If she is out babysitting every weekend, if she wanted to contact you she would have by now. My guess is that she is regaining a bit of her life on the condition that she have no contact with you. Getting in touch with you, or even getting back into a relationship with you, is not worth it to her in comparison with the punishment she is likely to face when caught. If you truly care about her, either let it go or take Haid's suggestion. Getting her parent's permission is probably the only way you have a shot at dating her without making her life worse than it already is (due to stupid parents).
i've come to the conclusion that its almost hopeless. i KNOW that she's ungrounded and coulda called me by now. she can talk on the phone and go spend the night n shit again. so, unless there's a really complicated reason, then it's obvious to me. i've tried calling her house phone about 10 times (with *67) and every time its her sister or parents', and i wouldnt know what to say to either of them, so i dont bother. on new years eve my mom went to their house for a party and she tried to find out if she was there cause she knew i wanted to see her...and then my mom took off without saying anything a little while later. i still have no idea if she was there or not. but it dosnt matter anymore, i guess. how else can i look at this situation? ALL my relationships have ended in fucked ways, i'm so fucking sick and tired of having the most amazing relationship in my life and all of the sudden everything just fucking ends or gets taken away. i miss her, and apparently she doesn't miss me back. don't know why i didnt see that coming. oh yeah, and she got caught with a zema and a pack of her dads smokes in her backpack on september 8th, the last day i talked to her on myspace befor it got deleted. so she got grounded even longer then, but shes not now. so...still comes down to the same thing i guess. the best thing i can do for myself is get my mind off her and have a good time all the time, and don't let the stress my own mind puts on me fuck it all up. the whole irony of this thing, and my shitty ass luck, pisses me the fuck off.
Scrapt.....you ar only 16. There are a lot more girls and women ahead of you. Chalk this one up to experience. We all have heartbreak in love at some point. Get over it.
hmm something like this happend to my brother him and his girlfriend had sex and they thought that she may have been pregnant i guess she was paronoid so she told her parents butthey werent aloud to see each other for the longest of time he got a new girlfriend and now a year and a half later there together again and are parents are find with it there even moving in together the best thing is if she loves you and you love her as much as you say then everything will work out for the best i hope you can work everything out with her parents and her but i have to admit its kinda well im not calling you stupid but having sex with a 14 year old girl wasnt a wise choice my brother and his girl were almost seventeen and plz dont take the wrong way whe i said stupid and not wise
