I thought id post this in here, as i have read many other posts i can really relate to on the subject...People are feeling disappointment, or feel they need or deserve more out of "sex", and i completely understand. Here is why: I am bored of what is most commonly thought to be "sex". Im tired of meat movements, of focus on action, the physical, the form and function. Im sick of acting out purely hormonal urges, of seeing naked bodies posed in sexual positions, of hearing of people being mindless or heartless in their sexual acts... There seems to be a world craze; focus on the flesh, the flesh, the flesh...as if that was all that was or can be But i sense there is more than this. My being cries out for more, a voice tells me we are blocking out the entire MEANING of having sex in the first place I sense that my body is simply an outward expression of my inner soul, my inner feelings. It is simply another way of connecting to another soul...looking into eyes, holding hands, giving a massage, kissing-kissing the whole body...the shoulders, chest, genitals...and yes, penetrative sex. It is driven by my spirit, this urge to bond, share, enter and communicate with another and with the eternal... It is a dance of our higher selves, and yes, can truly elevate a human being. So why, then, have i in the past felt dead inside after sexual encounters? Why do i hear of others feeling the same over and over again? Why have we abandoned our SELVES because we are focussing so hard on the ACT and the body rather than whats truly important at the end of it all? Human beings, in my mind, are evolving. Yes, we have sexual desires which derive from the physical...but why have these become things of shame, confusion, dirtiness or anything else negative? Why can we not recognise that yes, they are oftentimes hormonal, but that this is Beauty too? It seems to me that we have spent so long idolising the vehicle(the body and the physical)that we have forgotten what our journey is about and what the destination is My mind has stopped working now. I hope this made at least a little sense. I suspect it didnt I tried I also realisenot everyone shares my views on spirituality, metaphysics or anything else, and i fully respect this. This is just my personal experience Thanx -Maxi
Actually, this made perfect sense -- at least to me. I just don't know how to fully respond to it just yet ... give me some time =)
I totally agree and you made perfect sense. I'm not totally down with this hippie/metaphysics culture, but you were completely eloquent and passionate nonetheless. I agree with you completely. Last time I had sex with my girlfriend, I turned her over and gave her doggie (with her laying down all the way/it was weird). I looked down at this little thing I was mumping my meat into. There was nothing fun, nothing romantic. I had just said, let's do it and we did. I faked an orgasm and was so upset I nearly cried- sex was so boring and monotonous and ugly... I hated it. I think all the time about how sex makes me dead inside afterward- I think people need to find their match: A person that brings out the best of them physically, emotionally and "spiritually". I haven't found my match, in that respect, but some day I hope I will... I want to feel animal love, not just animal lust. I agree with you entirely, and I think it's sad how crappy the cold truth about love and sex can be.
Thanx everyone. I was worried it was a meaningless rant... and chronic, Im glad it isnt just me. Ive had experiences exactly as you just described. I suppose i was doing things that way because thats what id always heard about others doing...id never really heard much about the "spiritual" side of sex Society most certainly does place complete emphasis on the action and physicality of it I think i have now found my "match" in this respect, but it will still take a lot of work before we can reach those heights and fulfil a sexual connections full potential, as we have both been so unused to doing so I hope you find your "match" one day too, someone to connect to emotionally etc. You are absolutely right, these things are important -Maxi
