Hi peoples ~ For as long as i can remember i have had difficulties maintaining friendships, and the recurring reason seems to be my "cat" nature - i am loyal only to myself - or so i am told. There are times when i feel a friend is pointing to something, or dropping their keys, or engaging me in a conversation about a topic, to show others that they 'own' me. It's a catch 22, i feel they think the world is more important, and they think i am more concerned about how others see me. I trust others, but there are times when i will not support their actions; i will not ignore another just because i have been told by a friend that the person has pissed them off. Too often i have found that i was just a tool for that friend to retaliate on a person for a reason other than what was said to me; or, what i consider worse, just to test my 'loyalty'. SO, feedback would be appreciated from those who don't mind "cats" Smile , can give insight as to what you consider loyalty, do you test it in this way - and why, becasue i just don't get it. BTW. i may be adhad - the diagnosis is pending _________________ taken by the sky ~
i don't think cats have anything to do with it. i love my friends, but i won't get in the middle of their bullshit and i won't be told what to do or how to think by anyone. but i'm about as loyal as a friend can get. i'm just not malleable that way.
um, people don't do those things to own you pointing to something is to show you something, they care and think that you might be interested us klutzes drop shit all the itme engaging you in a conversation, would you rather they ignroed you? Part of having a friend is having someone you can talk, aka converse, with.
