Hey everyone...so, to all who read my previous...interesting...thread, I finally have some results for you. haha I finally seriously brought all of this up to her a few weeks ago, and we have a really good talk about it all. And ever since then, things have much improved. The main proplem seemed to be, when we had out Thanksgiving break fiaso, was that during the break, I was extremely nervous (because she was meeting my whole family for the first time, and I wanted everything to be perfect, etc...) so I was, as you could say, a little uptight. I was pretty "snappy", and kind of short tempered. I didn't realize I was until she told me all of this, and it kind of opened my eyes. So because of the way I was acting, she was "seeing a whole different person", and kind of freaked out. She got afraid that maybe we wouldn't last, if this is who I really was, which it wasn't. So she told me all of this, and I told her my concerns as well, and we both came to mutual understandings, and we're now closer than ever And things have improved physically as well... Fine, I'll go ahead and say it...Butters lost the V-card this past weekend hahaha I am so glad I waited 20 years for the right person...the whole experience was incredable...beyond belief incredable. I now see what all the fuss is about hehe So here is another question then...I'm not "bragging" or anything, I'm just almost a bit...well...stumped about this... I know everyone says how your first time never really lasts long, and isn't the greatest, and everything... well....um....this was my first time for sure, and, well...she had to stop. I seriously outlasted her. It lasted maybe about 25 minutes, and I wasn't even anywhere near done yet. She literally had to stop me because she said she "couldn't stop shaking". I could have kept going for a long time after that. I guess I just don't ever really hear of that happening your first time...
20 years is a fairly long wait! I'm glad it was worth it. And that you two got everything all worked out.
aha. it sounds like every time she fucks you around she comes up with some new way that it's 'your fault'. but i'm glad u finally got some. good to know she's good for something
My guess was she was exceptionally sensitive, and it took a while to wear off. Alot of girls are likely to have that reaction if their clitoris is stimulated just right, and she may be one of the more sensitive individuals. If so, she could take awhile to become accustomed to your level of intimacy. But I could be wrong. Either way, good luck, and congrats again man! Here's to many more "good weekends!"
Shaking usually comes from teh sheer intensity of the act. My first time (ok, technically second but the first was short and the second was within five minutes) was the only time I've orgasmed from penetration and afterwards every time he touched me in sensitive areas (ie licked my back) I was all shakey and shuddering again - not like I was going to orgasm again, but like my whole skin was massively sensitive just from how intense it was to actually share my body with someone.
Hmmm, I guess it was just so odd because of the fact that it went on for 25 minutes, and she actually had to stop (someone who has done that plenty of times before) before me (my first time ever).
[but like my whole skin was massively sensitive ] Skin is the largest sex organ on the body....SOOOOO missed by soo many!!!
25 minutes is a long freakin time for continuous friction. I can't last much past that, at least not without some serious amounts of lube and even then, I get raw and tender. I'm assuming you used a condom? That often makes it harder for guys to come.. And Eztimer, it's kinda hard to completely miss the skin during sex :tongue: well, I guess except for maybe sex via a gloryhole, but even that involves some skin to skin contact. That's the only time it's happened to me.
I did, but it was the really freaking thin non-latex ones...those are supposed to even transfer more body heat and such. I don't know, for some reason I was just able to hold it in really well I guess...I don't know. It sure wasn't a problem of being turned on enough, I was hard and going at it the whole 25 minutes, trust me, haha.
I guess basically, I just want to know if I did okay or not, haha. She says I was the best ever...I dunno...its just hard for me to believe that, being that it was my first time and all...
I'm going to go see her on the 28th for eleven days and ten nights...and we're definetly going to go freaking buck wild on thursday night... So, before then, any cool tips? I think I have the basics down now, but anything that would REALLY wow her? I seriously want her to feel the greatest she has ever felt in her life.
okay, non-cynical answer now the last few times you've said "we're going to have sex on this or that night", they haven't worked out. it seems to have been a combination of putting pressure on you and her (subconciously) because you're soooo excited to be with this girl. cool that you're that into her - but pressure might equal dissapointment. you know you guys will have sex again, and you know you'll have different oppourtunities to. that doesn't mean you have to on thursday night, or any other night you happen to be alone. instead of planning it, why not just let it happen (or not) depending on what mood you guys are both in, whether you're in the right place for it? i'm not saying don't have sex, but rather be open and listen - and if it happens, enjoy it! if it doesn't, there will be plenty more oppurtunities. also, you said there have been a couple of times where she hasn't wanted to have sex because you've maybe said something a bit insensitive to her. if you're relaxed and listening, you'e more likely to pick up on if that happens again - rather than just being sad because you're not having sex. and, sorry about my last reply being overly cynical. it came from my own projections of not being happy with my relationship. so from a more honest and less clouded point of view...congratulations on your first time! it sounds like you guys are really in love, and i hope it all keeps getting better and closer just remember to keep lots of communication open, and relax - both of you. and most of all (ESPECIALLY with the sex stuff!!!!) - HAVE TONS OF FUN!!!!!!
oh ~ PS things to wow her with...don't just have to be sex things. you know her well and you know what she likes and wants. little presents (especially presents you made) to surprise her, a personal love note or poem...a long hug...a foot rub...flowers...all nice stuff. things that are personal and special to you and her are a great idea. or a fun day out that you plan - create a picnic and go to a romantic spot. i'm sure other here will have good ideas too
As you are pounding away, reach both hands around, and massage her clit with one sloowwly but firmly, building pressure as you go along. And with the other, give her a bit of a body rub, circulating over the most of her torso and chest. If you are flexible enough, bend over, around, AND UNDER her and give her breasts a bit of a suck and nibble, as you continue to pound away.
Hehe, good answer...I knew about the clit thing, so when we did it, I tried to do that, but she stopped me saying that it would make her way too loud... See, thats our problem. The only chance we get ever, is still in her house (which is small) when her whole family is asleep. And her grandparents live with them now too, until they get their new house built, and they live right acros the hall from her. So we have to be really quiet, which sucks bigtime. So, is there anything I could do to really drive her crazy and everything...without compramising the fact that we need to be quiet? haha. I dont have a problem being quiet, but she is verrrrrrry vocal....
