Straight Guy's problem...

Okay, so I have a friend who's a dyke, atleast that's what I think. She has a girlfriend, but I feel a strong connection between the both of us. We're both close friends, and I don't want to risk a friendship on the basis of a mere crush. I've just come back from the cinema with her (Pan's Labrynth...Good film.), and things went well enough for a friend's only date. What's the realistic chances of her liking me, and should I tell her about my feelings?

Yes, it may seem like a stupid question, and in need of a cliché response, but I'm only human after all. Confusion is like STDs: everyone is a target.

 

Ok.....the only way your going to find out is to drop her a hint.....and see how she acts...but , you guys are close friends...and it might mess that friendship up.

 

If she has a girlfriend, that's probably a good indication that she likes vagina.

If she was interested in a relationship with you she probably wouldn't be going after chicks. I think it's best to keep it a friendship.

 

well she could be bi, or experimenting, but realistically the only way you'll find out is by being honest with her as oppsed to asking people on here who have never met her and so won't have the first idea.

its risky because if you do ask her she may feel that you are being disrespectful about the fact that she is gay AND has a girlfriend, also if she feels you are attracted to her she may well not be comfortable with this, so as E said think carefully before you act
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I would say take a chance and inform her of your feelings. It may strain your friendship but, she may be bi or testing the sexual waters.

 

If she really IS a friend, I would simply tell her how I felt about her.
BUT! You have to be ready to accept friendship only.
Are you strong enough?

 

We've been friends only for this long, and it's not like she'll discard me knowing my feelings. I just wouldn't want her feeling that I talk to her, or go out with her just for the reason to try to get with her...If that makes sense. But as a friend, I think I'm obliged to be truthful.

 

I've got a few videos on this subject you can borrow.
The one starts off where this straight guy takes his two women friends for a picknic then he gets the picknic ready while they go and swim naked in tyhe water - then they get out the water on the other side and theyre a bit cold so they huddle together and that makes them horny - they dont realise the guy has some binoculars and he gets turned on by what he sees and they get much more into it - he strips off - swims to the other side and gives them both a meat trumpet up the bandstand

I think maybe you should watch and learn

 

oh my god hun. I'm like in the same position as you and I think I did fuck up my friendship with my friend, he says he doesn't care and we did hook up but all I need to say is if u really love her then go for it. LOve holds no limits and if it's there then you should go for it. If not then just @ least express your feelings for her just be like "I don't want this to reuion our relationship and I don't want you to freak out" then state w/e it is your wanting to state then say "I understand you have a girlfriend and hmm IDK sorry I got lost. I need to listen to my own advice.

 

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Wrong thread, Mojo?:tongue: I'm bi-curious maybe.

 

Whoa, I didn't realize.

 

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You say you think your fiend is a dyke and that you are close.
But you can't be that close if you don't know or are afraid to ask.
You also think she has a girlfriend, but you seem to be willing to come between that relationship. If she is your friend, you would do well to consider this.

I believe that you are developing feelings for a friend who may not be sexually attracted to your gender. My advice has always been that this is the problem of the person who is having the "crush", but if it stands in the way of your friendship, you should try to be out with it. Find a way to tell her how you feel and discuss how your relationship should progress. If you truly do have a friendship developing, this will be the least of your troubles.
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it isn't very friendly to go after someone that's in a relationship

as long as she has a girlfirend, I think whether she's straight or bi is pretty irrelevant
if you want to keep her as a frined, lay off uintil she's more availible

 

Thanks. That's some good advice.

 

Take my advice - watch a few educational films about lesbians and you can learn how to get a threesome with them. Its best to learn how to speak german if you want to get the most out of the films but some have got subtitles.
The most eduactional is called "DOUBLE THE FUN"
and its about 2 women that like doing sexual stuff together. Then a guy sees them in a room in an apartment on the bed together and eventually he bonks them both senseless and from that day forward they realise its better to eat beef on the bone than to drink from the hairy goblet