Actually, men like anal, we have a G spot there, so don't try it, it really doesn't help. Women most of the times DON'T like anal, and that's it. You just have to accept it, there's tons of stuff to do in bed besides anal. Enjoy and appreciate what you have, at least you have a girl...
Well, is it something you instantly love or hate and never go back? Or is there a way to mabye ease her into it and then enjoy it?
Why don't you care about her enough to respect her wishes? If she doesn't like it, don't force it. Get an anal fleshlight...or a gay lover
I'm not forcing in loser, I'm just wondering if there's a way to make her enjoy it. If not, then I can live without it.
First of all, has she ever tried it? If she hasn't tried it, then it's natural for her to not want to try it. How old is she? From personal experience I've found a strong correlation between a girls age and how willing she is to try new things. The younger she is, the less likely she will want to try it. The older she is, the more likely she is to try anything to spice up her dull sex life. If she has tried it, she probably had a bad experience with it, which is a likely reason why she doesn't want to do it ever again. Why hasn't luvmywifesass said anything on this thread yet? he would have the best advice for you.
well.... i used to not like it *bad experience* but after awhile and persistance but not pushing.... i tried it again and enjoy it from time to time.....talk to her about why she doesnt want it.... communication is key in all aspects of sex so talk to her.... you may out some things
You see, this analogy doesn't apply to everyone. "anal"ogy.....haha.. anyway. I do enjoy anal stimulation very much. That is why I believe it is pleasurable, or has the potential to be when done correctly. Most of the dislike for it is psychological. I would really like to be in a relationship with a woman that enjoys anal sex, and it would be a big plus if she were into giving it as well as receiving it! I've read a few suggestions to women recommending that they ask their man to let them wear a strapon and do him, if he gets to do her. This is suggested as something to discourage the male. I say bring it on!
Tips eh? Well, if she is ok with food play, pour honey, jelly, surup, or whip cream on her bottom. Put it mostly on her pussy and let some run down her ass crack, or "accidentally" put it there. Lick her whole bottom clean. In the heat of the moment, lick her ass crack clean also, and slowly lick over her butt hole once. If she doesn't get uncomfortable with that, lick her butt hole more, and rim her good. If she enjoys that, do it during other love making sessions. Try rubbing her butt hole with your fingers during vaginal intercourse when she is very aroused. Don't attempt to insert it yet, just get her into enjoying the stimulation. At some later date, after much rubbing and licking, slip a finger in when she is really hot. Don't try to have her try it "for you". Instead offer her things that she may like. She may come around to the idea of having her butt pleasured. I dated a girl that enjoyed being rimmed and rubbed there. She told me that I could put a finger or two in "in the heat of the moment" oneday. I didn't try fingering her before we broke up. I missed out on a great opportunity. At the beginning of our relationship, she was against anal sex. At the end, she loved anal stimulation, but was possibly still opposed to anal intercourse (which is within reason).
Perhaps you should first explain, why she didn´t like it. Did she try it or has she general problems with it? By the way, there is this book "The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women" (see [size=-1]www.puckerup.com/[/size]) which might help.
work her up to it. anal hurts like a BITCH. play with her asshole to start with. 1 finger then 2 then break out the k.y jelly and go for it.
First find out why she isn't into it, and if she says "it sounds gross" you might stand a chance. However if she says "no way in hell, it hurts!" then you either need to accept your sex life, or move on. I agree with the people that said work up to it with foreplay and some teasing. If you are interested in being on both ends of anal you may want to find yourself a woman that can accomodate your desires because if your gf doesn't like it you will end up blaming her for your lack of it, and since she has made her feelings clear it would be unfair for you to. Just remember that she has an opinion too, and if she doesn't want anal respect her wishes.
WTF?? At age 25, I don't beleive you could have a lot of insight on older people and whether their sex life is dull or not. :drool: :001_icon1 :whip: :reddevil:[/QUOTE]You misunderstood. I consider myself an older person in reference to the 16-18 yr olds on the forum. When the sex gets boring, you spice it up. If it doesn't get boring, it's already spiced up. That's all I was saying.
.......and if the two pages of conflicting advise and personal preferences aren't fertile enough ground for you to try, get a new g/f and ask her at the beginning of the relationship. BTW, have you had much prior experience with anal or does it just sound exciting. If you haven't, you may not be the best person for her if she does decide to go along with your wishes. Just a thought for 'now?' to shoot down.
it really comes down to whether she gets any enjoyment from anal stimulation or not. if when she's close to coming and she still can't enjoy the stimulation there then u're onto a non starter. she's just not wired for it either mentally/physically. however even if she enjoys anal stimulation not all girls enjoy anal sex. a finger that's one cm in diameter is very different from a penis that's 3-5 cm in diameter.
