Engaged couple or married

You don't have to be mean, just dump him.

 

Abusive relationship
control freak

break it off with him, before y'all spend a shitload on the wedding, do it asap

 

He is not your father, don't let him try to act like it.

Can you see youself still with him in twenty years?

 

i told him no sex until he trust me cause i dont trust my vagina with him... he got pissed and stormed off.

 

I would leave him. Seriously.
My husband was kind-of weird about meeting my friends at first. His friends and mine are totally different crowds. His friends are into big trucks and fast cars and such... not to say that I'm not, but my friends are more into piercings, obnoxious music and just having fun, no matter how much trouble we have to get into... He actually hid from three friends that are like my siblings... refused to come out of our bedroom the first time they came over. It took him about a week after that to actually talk to them. BUT, he never told me that I wasn't allowed to see them. He wouldn't, and he knows he couldn't because I wouldn't stick around long, as much as I love him, nobody is going to take me away from my family - and that's what my friends are to me.

 

why are you still in this relationship? i mean, is there something really great about this guy that's making you want to stay with him?

 

Yeah, there's no reason to be evil. Just tell him that loving you means accepting your friends as part of his life as well. So, if he can't at least accept the people YOU trust and love into his life, then there is part of YOU that he can't accept into his life. Tell him you can't change who you are to make him happy. He should be with you for who you are, not for who he wants you to be.

You don't have to be mean, but be forceful, honest, and SURE of yourself.

Odds are he is fronting because he is afraid he isn't good enough for you, or because he feels HE should know you better than anyone else. He feels threatened. But if he can't resolve these issues, you really need to separate or it will definitely end up hurting you both.

 

well, when i love someone, i stay with them. The only thnng to make me leave him is if he left me

 

In that case, I'd suggest counseling. Please don't take this as an insult. Don't you wanna be happy? If you are saying you won't leave him for any reason, then stop complaining. You've already decided that you are ok with anything he ever demands of you.

Case settled.

Move on.

 

No offence hacker, but You have no right to tell me to move on. Its my decision. I know what i got to do and I dont want to do it so suddenly.

 

Suicide is looking like your best option at the moment.

 

hm.. me attempt suicide? Wow, I would never have thought of that.. Care to show me how to?

 

Katie,


Except for the suicide, everybody here has given you some very good advice. Control freaks can make your life a living hell when you are married. Controlers never get better they only get worse. More and more of your life will be under his control before you know it. "But I love Him" is no excuse for submitting to the unbearable, many men who have a control fixation (its about power) become violent eventially in relationships, hospitals and cemetarys are full of women who said "But I Love Him".


Listen up Katie, these folks are giving you the brutal truth.

 

mister i guess so.. I'll give him a few more days to see how he is.. he just recently become this way so I hope I can get him to shut up and treat me with respect. I mean he never hits me.. and i appreciate a man who dont hit.

 

A lot of battered women were not hit before the wedding. Those sickos know what they are doing.

P.S. I think Hacker meant "move on" as in "on to the next topic"

 

Lol, i agree when you told katie not to make so many threads but why suggest suicide?

 

You asked for people's opinion, and I gave you mine.

I am not telling you what to do. I am answering a question you asked.

It's my opinion.

Take it if you want or disregard it, but don't attack me for answering your question.

 

That is crazy in a way. No- one has control over you , or should dictate every aspect of your life. You should definately still have friends, BUT my wife and I dont hang out with as many friends as we used to for certain reasons. Some of my old friends do not fit into my lifestyle now, and are not a positive force in my life now. There are certain friends that should be phased out, when you enter a very very serious relationship. If there are friends you have slept with, I completely understand him not wanting you to interact with them. Friends are a necessity in life, but some friends may not appreciate your relationship. I have friends that wont even come to my house, because they are jealous of us. They are uncomfortable because they are in a different place in their lives than I am. You have to take all that into account before you take the plunge.