um so i am 14 and a boy but i think i mite want to be a girl but i dunno for sure because whenever i read about transgender(transexual?)(sorry if i dont know the proper terms) people they seem like they acted like the opposite gender from a very young age and im not so young as like 5 year olds, also im wondering if its just sexual or something cause i get rly turned on by wearing girl clothes soooo...... what do i do? ps-im not rly into stereotypical(dolls, well i guess most girls my age dont like dolls that much eaither) girl stuff... um and i like videogames and voilent movies ( not the be hatin or anything, im just saying the steryotypical things that boys mite like) o yea and i dont like sports 2 much or tackling my friends by suprise........just in case that means anything pps.- im new so hii everyone
I think you need to leave it another couple of years, your confusion may well clear if you just live your life, at the moment I think your two young to be making any types of decision on this. I say this not so much because of your age but because you say you are confused, study the topic a little, read up on it and see how you feel about the whole thing. but I would suggest you just relax a bit, cause I think confusion comes with being a teenager- and I don't mean to sound patronising S
I really don't think there is one, but I think you should give yourself at least a couple of years to mature and develope, before you make any concrete decisions about your gender and sex S
yea i agree with Samhain, give it time. and dont worry, pple your age are confused about their identity and thexual identity too, even if they dont all show it
yea i guess i'm confused aswell, thats kinda why i'm doing a little research of my own, i dont really get turned on by wearing womens clothing n teh first time i did it i was ur age, i like video games n boy stuff aswell but i'm 24 and still confused, but i would ask you if you have heard of autogynophillia, if not then perhaps you should research it, i did and i'm quite pleased to say i dont think i have it, altho i could be in denial but i doubt it
I haven't heard of that term. if you got a sexual kick by wearing womens clothes it tends to mean (although not always) that you would be transvestite, who do it for a sexual kick or to adpot a tempory personner, but wouldn't have any surgery. if the clothes just feel 'right' then that would suggest you may be transexual, but it would be wrong just to go on those to critia alone S
Samhain's right, but generally the preferred term for 'transvestite' is 'crossdresser,' as there are a lot of potential motivations to crossdress. Sometimes it's a sexual fetish, sometimes it's expressing another part of your identity that isn't necessarily your predominant identity, sometimes it's just because you like dressing up and looking hot in a skirt [or a suit, depending].
if i'm not mistaken, autogynaphilia is pretty much the same as homosexual transexualism accept the suffer is non-homosexual and as a result doesnt suffer the trauma of growing up as an efeminate boy, that doesnt mean to say that simptoms arent severe or experienced from a young age, its basically the striaght version of transexualism i.e a striaght man develops gender-dysphoria but in a less traumatic way, starting as a fantasy and progressing to obsession and depression because one cant act out ones fantasy, thats not to say its perverted either the suffers cant help but have the fantasy and be drawn to womens cloathing i think the eroticism of dressing up wears off and it becomes normal in effect making them a "normal" transexual dont know tho
Hmmm, i obviously can't agree with that assessment, as it's just a sweeping generalisition.....Personally, i believe if you've felt a different gender from the sex you were born from a very young age, and never doubted it, then you are born that gender, but in the wrong body. The older you are when you start having those feelings, (Not having the treatment) the more likely it is that there is a sexual, or other reason (other than that is how you were born) why you want to change sex. I think that is the real difference. A person BORN in the wrong body would never consider altering their genitals as "changing gender". You're just trying to give yourself what you KNOW you should have been born with in the first place. In my case, i AM female despite having a male body. If i seen myself as male, i wouldn't want to alter my body. Your sex is determined by your body. Your gender is determined by your mind, and brain. (And soul, if such a thing exists) The first thing people look to when a babys born is it's genitals, and think that determines the baby's gender. Wrong. It just determines their sex. The brain is the most important part of someone's body, but because it cant be seen, people don't take any notice of it. That's the thing that makes me laugh, when people say wanting to alter your body is wrong and you should stay how you were born. But we are not just born with arms, legs and genitals, are we? We are also born with brains. So, if your brain is female but in a male body, (Or vice versa) surely trying to deny that part of yourself is "going against nature"? Whether people like it or not, its your brain that makes you what you are on the INSIDE. Not your genitals, or any other part of your body. The fact that so many people with gender dysphoria have felt that way from about 4 or 5 years old, (Including myself) completely blows any arguement that its for "a fetish" or for sexual reasons out of the water. What is the only logical explanation for a child of that age feeling that way? The ONLY logical explanation is that they are born that way. I think certain people just want to believe it's for sexual reasons that people want to change their bodies to match their gender. Because then it would make their prejudice a lot more defenseible. And while i have nothing against people who do change their body's for those reasons, it is because of that, it is so much harder for people who are BORN in the wrong body to convince people of that fact. The fact is, even if i never have surgery, i'll never see myself as a male. I never have, and never will.
