how do u tell a guy

that u just ain't interested~
Just my luck, some guy I met here in Tampa has started calling me sweetheart and keeps trying to hold my hand when I meet him at the bus stop, and keeps asking me to call him....geez, I have nothing to say to the guy & a relationship is the last think I'm looking for.

 

You gotta learn how to kill 'em softly.

 

Give him a number to the "Rejection Hotline".

Try this number first to see if it works: 615-346-2800

If so, tell him it's your cell number.

 

Well, there's always trying to drop hints, but it sounds like you are and guys sometimes are REALLY dense.
You could try to be cordial but distant... make absolutely no indication of any interest. Cause I know I've seen some people who just by nature are too friendly to clearly turn someone off.
Beyond that... be blunt. Especially if there's no friendship at stake, nothing to lose.

Still an unpleasant ordeal i know!

 

Tell him you're into females.

 

LOL! Yeah, but what if he's into FFM threesomes? Might actually encourage him. "Oh, you like girls? Me too! You see? We do have something in common! Wanna share her?"

 

You.... just tell him.
C'mon woman, I know you're tougher than having to tippytoe around something like this. Just tell him you aren't interested in a relationship right now - with anyone. Him included

 

Yeah honesty is really the best option. As blunt or as subtle as you are, it's always better to get it out of the way, as opposed to letting him think he has a chance. It's hurts a lot less if he figures it out sooner, instead of later.

 

Tell him you're really a man.

 

Tell him you got the herpes.....the gyotdayum herpes

 

This is something I wish women knew how to do better: giving out clear signals. But the flipside of that is...if you can't tell a guy when you are in fact interested, you'll also have a hard time saying the opposite.


Women are socialized to give off mixed signals, and men are socialized not to take those signals seriously. The more women who are interested in a guy play games, the more guys will remain unconvinced when you say "no."

The sad part is, when women do come clean and tell men what they think, they're stigmatized. So it's a two-way street.

You are already letting him hold you hand, so you're getting bogged down the mixed signals path. The only solution is total honesty. Don't say you're not interested in a relationship or any other excuse. Say you're not interested in HIM, but did not wish to hurt his feelings. Say from now on you won't hold hands, or flirt at the bus stop or anything.

 

oh, god yes! It's frustrating. There was a guy I went on a couple dates with and decided things weren't working out and so I told him I wasn't interested in seeing him anymore... he responded by saying he wasn't sure if he should really believe my no, that he felt like he should work at chasing after me like they do in the movies.
Fortunately it took him a while to respond and I'd found a new body to be interested so I at least had that as an excuse to drive him away. But I'm afraid to let him know I'm single again since I feel like he's gonna come chasing again, oi.

 

Just show him your cock.

 

A HINT?~ when he asked why I didn't have a bf (as if everyone HAS to have 1) I said I wasn't in the mood to look for 1.
well right or wrong....I just ain't gonna bother being around the bus stop when he gets outta work today. For some reason he assumes that just cuz I get outta work around 1pm, that I'll walk back over to the bus stop to see him for the 15 minutes he's there waiting to change buses.

 

man, just try and ignore him as best you can while you pray for him to find something/someone better to do - no point in bursting this guy's bubble if he's a nice sort of bloke...and if he's a closet psychotic, you don't want to piss him off either!

yep try and ignore him, wish for a better future for him elsewhere

 

TELL HIM! :ack: The poor guy obviously thinks you're in love with him. You must have done something, like snogged him? Shagged him? Drank from his fairy cup?

 

sorry I ain't never been to England...your phrase "drank from his fairy cup" cracked me up! and if snogging is the same as shagging...sorry I ain't done none of that with him.

 

I believe snogging = making out

Just be upfront about it, tell him you don't want a boyfriend, period, end of discussion.

 

yeah, but if she talks about it, he may be one of those pepe lepew types - "your mouth, she says 'no', but your eyes, they say 'yes'!"

avoiding the topic would be best in my opinion, and no one gets their feelings hurt from either being shot down, or feeling like the bad guy here

 

Shit, I seem to have this problem a lot. There was this guy I worked with... I don't even know how old he was it was hard to tell... maybe thirties... anyway, he talked to me a lot, and at first I was nice to him because I thought he was being friendly... not flirting. Well, we only talked a bit and I didn't have much interest in him at all, and he tried asking me to hang out with him a few times but I wasn't really interested. So then I realized what he wanted, and not being interested, I didn't talk to him much. He started to be a real jerk after that so I tried to ignore him and he got mad about that, actually calling me on it, and I barely knew the guy! I'm glad I quit working there because it could have turned into something weird. I don't have any advice, though. Just try to avoid him, maybe.