I have been with my girlfriend for 14 months, and we are talking about moving in together next summer. I feel like we are really close, and have a fairly healthy relationship. We have a lot of fun together, spend most of our time together, and are able to communicate our feelings. She has been dealing with serious health issues the last few months, and it has put a strain on our relationship. Back in October she was put on lexapro, and it completely sent her off the deep end. She had emotional breakdowns nearly every day, was constantly nauseous, and had no self worth. It nearly destroyed her. She was only on it for one month. She has been battling migraines and headaches her whole life, and they were slowly dissappearing before she was put on lexapro, but now they are back. I would say more than anything she constantly has a headache, and has low energy. We live in Colorado, and she moved back to Missouri for a couple months to see some specialists and whatnot. Anyway, she has been pretty much living with me in my apartment over the last year, and it has went pretty good. Occasionally, I get upset over how messy she can be, or just try to tell her I need some space, and she understands and its an issue we are working on. What are your thoughts on moving in together in our own apartment, where we can each have our own space, and she can have all of her stuff in one place...right now it is kind of hectic for her, because I complain sometimes about all her crap, but at my place she has nowhere to put it, so it just ends up on the floor, etc. I think moving in together would advance our relationship, we both feel ready for it, and I also think it would make her happier, as right now she feels a bit "homeless." Do you think setting some basic groundrules that we both mutually agree on about cleaning up the house, making dinner, etc, would be a good idea? I've read a lot about moving in together, and I think we are ready, I was just wanting some input or suggestions. Thanks.
I don't know about the whole moving in situation, but as to the migraines, I would suggest her trying some Butterbur. It's an herb, and you should be able to get it from any health food store. It is taken everyday to help prevent and lessen the severity of migraines. Take like 3 a day for the first month, then 2 a day after that. If she feels a migraine coming on, then take 3 immediately. I've had lots of people tell me that this has tremendously helped them with their migraines.. Just my 2 cents Edit: If she is still on Rx, then I would check with her docter for any type of drug interactions..
Go for it I say, but if she is messy tell her to stop being lazy and clean some stuff up! I dont mean to be rude, but my grandmother who is seventy something years old and has arthritis all over and is constantly going to the hospital because she is falling apart and in so much pain her whole life, still keeps one of the cleanest houses I've ever seen. Ok, but yea that aside, other than you having to deal with a lot of complaining (correct me if I'm wrong.) and have to do extra caring, it sounds like a good relationship to me, I mean it's not going to kill you to try and see if you and this girl can make something cool happen, but just be prepared at all times for it to start to fall off in the wrong direction, and make sure you have a back up plan and start saving money in the event of spilltin and have to move on alone
